not sure what happened.maybe another stroke as he had one in feb after laying on floor for at least a week after our daughter[32]passed on in jan.his kidneys shut down too and hardly made alive then.maybe he missed my daughter even though he made her life miserable.he controled her and took all her money.we tried so hard to get away from him but it was her choice to keep going back to him.now he won't hurt anyone else.he used his family and conned everyone.god will decide if he goes to heaven or not.how am to think about him now that he is gone?i don't want god or others to think i am heartless.
2006-06-11 13:31:23 · 14 answers · asked by k 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think you need to forgive him in you're heart. I know he caused a lot of pain in you're life but he was probably a lost person and you have no idea what he may have been going through or what kind of early life he had or lack of guidance that turned him into the person he became. The main thing is God want listen to your prayers if you come to him with unforgiveness in your heart. We are told to forgive our enemies at least seven times seventy times. Thats alot. Also, the amount you judge will the amount by which God will Judge you. Maybe God did remove him for you and your daughters benefit but probably not. I would just pray that eventhough he hurt ya'll that God will have mercy on his soul if possible and let him go. I would also try to figure out why your daughter allows herself to be abused. There will always be another one like him waiting to take his place. Some people it seems almost attract a certain type like they deserve to be abused or a trying to replace a father figure. I would really talk to her about not getting invloved with someone like him in the first place. She deserves better and there is better out there. It's all about her respecting herself and screening the guys before she starts caring about them when it's often to late. Good Luck. It can be a new and better beginning for her if she's smart in the future.
2006-06-11 13:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by enlightenme 1 · 12⤊ 2⤋
ok so why bring it up unless to justify your heartless chest? if he is dead and gone then what does it get you to stew on it and preach to the world what a bad person he was. doesnt matter what you or i think of him anymore does it? he is going through whatever he is going through right now no matter what you or i (or anyone else) thinks about him. if he has no longer an effect on this world then why do you let him control your passions from beyond the grave?
your heartless if you continue to mope and let him ruin you now. live and be responsible love and respect and if you do those things, you wont remember who this guy even was! and there for his ghost will no longer have any control on you. love your daughter. let him go. remember her, forget him and trust me everything will be loads and loads better.
2006-06-11 13:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by mournyngwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to break the news to you but you have no control over what God or others think. I am genuinely sorry about your daughters situation and her ex boyfriend. All you can do is pray for him. He's in God's hands now and pray for yourself that He will heal your heart and allow you to forgive.
2006-06-11 13:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tricky, I agree. I am sorry about the loss of your daughter. About the death of the ex...you will go thrue many thinkings in how you feel about him dying over the next days,weeks, months, and years. He must have had some redeemable qualities for your daughter to have kept going back to him. It will take a while for you to finally be at peace with his death, but someday you will feel more settled about this.
2006-06-11 13:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by shannon d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a preacher or phsychologist of any kind. But to give a little input. Dont fret yourself. A parents job is to protect their children. Your daughters choice to stay with this man, was just that her choice. Please be sure that you know your not heartless. Your a mom.
2006-06-11 13:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by patti h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for both your daughter and him.
i think you should forget him if you cant forgive him and leave his matter to God. you be kind to him and God will reward you for this. and now whatever you think about him wont matter to him. so why waste your energies on something which cant get you anything.
i hope i dint hurt your feelings.
2006-06-11 13:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by livewire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
only to God belongs that which He has taken and only to God belongs that which He has granted. And by God everything has a specific time. Therefore, you should remain patience and attain reward.
2006-06-11 13:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by qwertyu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Is He Back To Black Mail Your Family?
2006-06-11 13:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for him and is family.You know that say what goes around come around so if he was not a food man to your daughter it just meat he was not the one for her and it was his time to go.God bless and good look.
2006-06-11 13:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Light Bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realize this is a form to ASK and ANSWER questions, right?
2006-06-11 13:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋