Do you think even though it was rage, they still meant it?

Question

If someone called you a horrible name, Im talking the worst name to ever be called in your life, that took your heart right out of your chest and was run over two thousand times,when in rage, do you think they meant it? Since this did happen to me, do you think I should forgive them? Even though I said I'd never talk or forgive them for what they did to me. Also, this is a VERY close family member to me, who lives in the same house. I am just so hurt, everytime I close my eyes I see the whole thing happening again. I cant stop thinking about it. Why do people want to always hurt me? Sorry if this is long.

Answer 1

I used to have a very close friend who turned out to have a very nasty temper lashing out at whoever was closest.

one day the target was me - and such thing were said that were totally unwarranted that the trust we had was destroyed (before this it was only rumour i had heard but hadn't seen anything like that in the 2 years i had actually known him)

i still miss the friendship i thought we had but even though it was said in a rage i found that trust could not be regained

one can forgive the person but it takes two to rebuild trust again. part of that process is the rager to acknowledge the harm that their outburst does without trying to downplay it - if they cant do that then your relationship may never be the same again

best thing then is to learn from it several things
1 - something once said cant as easily be taken back again
2 - don't bottle things up until it all goes off bang - keep a shortish account of things you need to sort with people
3 - don't keep company with bad tempered people - either it rubs off on you or they will turn their anger onto you deserved or not

Answer 2

Um, first thing you need to do is go up to him or her and be like 'YOU SUCK! Never call me that again, because when you do- it really hurts my feelings!' And then be all 'But I'm going to forgive you if you never say it again.' and if they do say it again- do what every female in my family has done before myself (I havent had the opportunity to do it yet) and hit that person with a frying pan.

Answer 3

i think even though people say things in a moment of rage there has to be some truth to what they said( in their mind). or they wouldn't have ever thought to say it.... you do need to forgive whoever it is because they are your family member and you cant stay mad forever.... i said forgive... not forget!

Answer 4

I am sure that person did not mean it, and most probably feels very bad about it.
Be te better person and ask God (or your higher power, whoever it is), to help you forgive.
You will feel so much better!
I guarantee!!!