why do women lie about this?

Question

i have read several questions about what women want on this site. they keep saying things like, "honesty, loving, treats me well, sweet, good listener" and things like that. but when it really comes down to it, women go straight for the biggest jerk they can find. i guy with all the B.S. lines. who they know is going to hurt them. a guy who plays games. and a guy who will never be the "man" they really need. why on earth do they do that? please explain this to me. please please please!!!!!!!

Answer 1

maybe they want the excitement and passion that is associated with the "bad boy" for "mr. right now" and figure they can wait to find the "nice guy " when they are ready to settle down. In our heart of hearts, we want to find the one man that fits both roles...an exciting, passionate, confident, sexy, nice guy! when we feel that physical attraction to the "bad boy", we tell ourselves that this could be that one perfect guy; he's just waiting for the right woman to focus his attention on....us! guess all those fairy tales leave their mark!

Answer 2

I had a friend ask me the same question the other day. And I told him this - women like to feel like they have accomplished something. with a good guy, we have nothing to accomplish. with a bad guy, if we can get him to be different we can say "look at him now" plus being the nurturers that we are we some reason think that we can save the bad ones. I personally am definitely looking for honesty. thats my only rule because with honesty comes all the other great things: trust, understanding,compassion, ect....I have been one of those girls that goes for the biggest jerk, but in time we all learn that those kinds of men (or women when it comes to the guys) are not worth our time and we get smart enough to try the good guys. Also everyone is a little vain. Some people look for looks, but the uglier a persons personality is, no matter how hot they are, they get ugly an you get to a point where you cannot stand to look at them. I tend to normally fall for charm and personality, thats my downfall because the most charming guys seem to always be the bad ones. And the same question to you - why do guys always say the like "the girl next door types" but date the smuts..? And this line is the best "you know me to well, we are to good of friends" thats a bullshit line if I have ever heard one. Just be honest. tell me i am not your type. hope that answers your question

Answer 3

Could be they don't recognize a good man when they see one; and because both men and women are on their best behavior when the first get together it's hard to tell that the person is going to turn in to Mr or Ms Hyde.

Also, there are women out there who really believe that they can find "goodness" inside of any man because they were only jerks in the past because they hadn't found the "right" woman.

Answer 4

Because women want a challenge! Women really don't want the nice guy but someone who is going to keep them interested. Women get bored with routine. To a women, a nice guy is someone who is respectful, caring, confidant but has a little edge to him. It keeps her on her toes! She doesn't want a mamby-pamby type of fella. Women need to have something to shoot for or to work on. They like variety and a little intrigue because they perceive that to be romantic. You can ask a zillion women that question and you will not get the answer that I am giving you - but that is why I am writing it here. Now go out there and be a demon (not an a$$hole) - but be gentle, kind, respectful and considerate and you will be the big stud on the block.

Answer 5

I cant speak for every woman out there. But for me I do because I want a sense of adventure. When I see a "bad boy" type its about 90% looks and 10% mental. But i like a guy that looks like the bad boy type but will still treat me right. Odds are if he plays the bad boy type he's not going to treat the girl right. But woman always think they can change and mold the guy to be the type of person they want them to be....not going to happen! The bad thing is most people go for looks....they think "hey he might treat me like s**t but he'll change eventually" and most times that dont happen. So i think its just wanting the bad boy type and hoping he will change.

Answer 6

I am guilty of this, and I know I have a problem with commitment so I choose the biggest jerk in order to have control. It meant that I could finish the relationship without getting too hurt.

Answer 7

It's not that girls go for the biggest jerk, we just want someone who knows how to show that he is the man in the relationship, if you bend over backwards for us all the time we lose respect for you. Gotta find that even mixture of being strong to us and for us, but also knowing..normally when it's just you two, to be that softy.

Answer 8

i am guilty of this. I dont try to, i am just a jerk magnet. They all come to me acting sweet and then they are total morons who just want to get some. I totally just want a real nice guy without the b.s.

Answer 9

It's the excitement or risk factor that attracts them to this kind of guy. He's the forbidden fruit so of course that's the one she wants.

It changes with maturity. I'm passed all that crap and have found a great guy who is not wild and dangerous. Just a nice , sweet honest guy who loves me and is not going to hurt me.

Answer 10

It's called "GAME". Some have it. Some don't. Those who do so, for evil, are good at it. It's all about promises and some women indulge in that promise. Women do the same to men (promises of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the house, blah-blah-blah).

You should be more concerned about being yourself. That always win out in the end.