I'm 22 and having major problems finding a girlfriend. I've tried everything I can think of, *including* sitting back and waiting. No matter what I do and don't do, try or don't try, I can never ever get beyond being "just friends". It doesn't matter if I've known the girl in question days, months or years - the result is the same.
Not looking gives the same result as well, so that doesn't work. I just want to know what I'm doing wrong...
2006-06-11 11:13:37 · 23 answers · asked by dave_norfolk_21uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your not in college, get busy. Girls don't want a no brainer! Then get involved in any and all activities that are current. Now days getting an education, & having a good job takes priority over "going steady". You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. Some people choose the dirt road, full of bumps, twists & turns, it takes longer to get where you are going down the dirt road. Some people take the paved road, it is smooth, it will get you where you are going faster. The choice is yours. Be good to yourself. You have to like yourself before anyone else will. Maybe you need to prioritize your goals in life! You matter to your friends, so don't ever think that you don't matter. Be yourself. In the meantime, think of a hobby you enjoy doing, and are good at; everyone needs a hobby! Best to you!
2006-06-11 11:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like men that challenge them in some way - a friend is completely reliable and no challenge at all - and once you have entered friend catagory you'll probably never escape.
Once men and women have become a unit they should hopefully become good friends - but in a different way and, for a while at least, the friendship will take second place behind the passion.
You must intrigue women to some degree - don't do the expected or predictable - if you are about to do something with a woman you fancy - stop - right now - and do the complete opposite - hard to get used to but ultimately rewarding.
Good luck
2006-06-23 03:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have not been hooking up with girls who have a thing for u but girls that just want to be friends. Don't be pushy or a lay back simply go out to say how u feel for anyone but if u're trying out on more than a chick at a time u'll loose both ways.Stick around one at a time and make a good impact if she's not game another chick could get intrsted in u. sooner or later u'll have line up and u'll be ther hot cake.All the best
2006-06-22 23:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by folistone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of looking for a partner, just concentrate on your friendships. Analyse why they don't go further. Do tyour girlfriends share the same ideals and goals with you? Probably not. Is it something they do that puts you off, or something that you are doing? Are you starting your friendships with Hi, I want to get married or move in with you before you even know them. Many people take their time before they can even think about whether a friend is the one they wish to settle with. You are still young, focus on making great friendships first. If you are brave enough you can try asking your friends (male and female) what they think about you and your previous friendships with girls. They might just help you see things from another perspective.
2006-06-22 21:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Lueji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doing anything wrong angel, you just haven't met a woman that reciprecates your chemistry that's all.
This is something no one can give you advice on unless they know you. But women ( like men ) have a talent to sniff out desperation and this is a huge turn off. So I suggest you forget women for a while, go and have fun with the lads and they will come to you, I PROMISE!!!!!!
xxxx
2006-06-23 06:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by sukimitchell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wait is worth it's while. everybody finds the right person in the end. i felt the same once and gave up, but my true love was right next to me all along and it was worth the wait. 3 long happy years now and I'm looking forward to many more. your time will come trust me.
2006-06-23 05:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by ness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong you are doing friend, the right moment has just not come your way and believe you me it will!
However it will help if you are bold and outright when that time does come. If u feel something, just say it however hard it may feel to do so...some moments lost just cant be recovered. So if u feel she's the one, tell her exactly that.
2006-06-22 18:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be confidentand enjoy life without thinking you have to get a girl.its obviously bothering you, just relax and appreciate life and then you will not worry about it as much and before u no it things will turn out 4 the better - keep ur chin up x
2006-06-23 03:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are to polite. If I like someone you should be direct and tell them. Or you could be trying to hard... just chill and let nature take its course. Besides have fun with your life, your only young once.
2006-06-23 04:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on chat that's the best thing if u want a woman try doing your own web site and put loads of pic of u on it so people will see your site and try not to scare them to much put what you like and what you in to what job you doing
2006-06-23 02:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by jenny cooper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋