im just 20 and live at home with my mum and step dad and brother. the last 4 months have been hell, for no reason he wont talk to me and looks at me horrible all the time and intimidates me alot. he is paralysed and doesnt speak to his own daughter who is younger than me, is he bitter? we got on great by the way for 6 years and suddenly without me doing anything to piss him off.making me soo upset. what can i do (and he is the kind of the guy you cant talk!) and now i dont really talk to my mum. pls advice, so distressing when i have an amazing dad all the way across the world. :(
2006-06-11 10:36:33 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and i cant move out as too expensive!
2006-06-11 10:40:52 · update #1
and pps-i have a job and a car and friends and hobbies. but i cant be out all the time!
2006-06-11 11:05:21 · update #2
I understand your problem and I think that no matter how much you talk to him thing are not going to change unless he wants too do it all on his own. And since moving out isn't an option at the moment I suggest you find something to do with your time other than staying at home. Like finding a job or going to school (assuming your not doing it already) Going to the library or donating your time to charities. Something you enjoy. I know you love your family but YOU are 20 and you need to start making a life of your own Maybe when he sees what your doing he'll start appreciating you better. As for your real dad start writing to him get that job and save up to go visit. Where there is a will there is a way. Good luck at what ever you do.
2006-06-11 10:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's sad. Talk to your mother. She must sense the situation. Take her our somewhere so you can be alone. The love for your child and the love for your partner is totally different. She may feel trapped. She might want to help you but if your step dad wants your mum all to himself she will have been put in a very difficult situation.
On the other hand with him being paralysed he might feel totally helpless and vulnerable and be trying to show he's still a man, (still head of the house etc.) Again, talk to your mum about this, don't approach him.
I know you miss your real dad but if you got a chance to go to Brazil, is there anything to give you a good chance in life. (I don't know anything by the way and I'm not being sarcastic - just don't know much about Brazil.)
You must be so miserable . good luck
2006-06-11 11:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Iluv24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never find out what's wrong if you don't ASK HIM!!!
Stop beating around the bush and just go for it. And tell him you are incapable of reading his mind (or are you?) so if he wants something from you he needs to express his desires.
Oh, and depending on your skills, I wouldn't move to Brasil. I am brazilian and the last time I went down there to look for work as a web designer I had no luck. Companies want to pay very little even for highly skilled pros.
Tourism is big there specially hotel management.
Good luck!
2006-06-13 05:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by =^..^=KittyCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you answered own question you have job and car and friends and hobbies .. poor step dad paralysed cant do anything so resentful and has estranged daughter give him break he very unhappy person ..speak to mum she also unhappy with situation unless shes blind to all......and the grass is always greener ... good luck
2006-06-18 05:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by bobonumpty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he may have unresolved issues with his own daughter and he's taking it out on you. It's a shame you can't move out, it might ease things a little between you. I think him being paralyzed also has something to do with it, it's a shame he has to take it out on you though. Is there any way your father can come back to you?
2006-06-14 01:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel sorry for you, but as you have a car and a job why don't you go find your father; meaning you must be at least seventeen or older go book yourself a ticket and good luck but send the miserable old sod a card anyway,,
2006-06-17 07:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20, move out!!
2006-06-11 10:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should look at moving out since your 20
2006-06-11 10:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by mommyof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to move out.
2006-06-11 10:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him, and if he doesnt reply, continute to talk. Just show him that you still love him no matter what.
2006-06-11 10:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋