Should I have sex with him?

Question

I met this guy about a month ago and we've really gotten into eachother. I go over to his apartment at least once or twice a week. He wants to have sex and I know I would really enjoy it, but I'm just not sure. He doesn't really seem like the guy who would use anyone or any of that, but at least once while I'm there he'll remind me of how much he's been hurt and used for sex and that he could never do that to another person. I think that if he had been hurt so bad, he wouldn't want to have sex right away, or am I wrong? I know I would really enjoy having sex with him, but I'm also afraid of hurting him. I'm not looking for a relationship at all (he knows that), but all those other girls left him right after they screwed (so he says). I don't want to be another one of those girls and he's kind of emotional/depressed, so I don't know if I should have sex with him or not. What do you think? By the way, I'm 19 and a virgin.

Answer 1

First off. I have some prime land on Mars I want to interest you in. The temperature is kind of erratic, goes from burning hot to freezing cold. And the nearest tree......there are no trees. but it really cheap!

It is the guys who seem they would never use a person is the one that will. From what I have read, he has been playing you like YoYo Ma does his cello. He has fed you all the standards; he was hurt so bad, he was used for sex so HE would never do the same.

You have a priceless gift. Worth more than ALL THE MONEY Bill Gates have. And you want to give it to some one you knew for only a month? When you give it to him, he OWNS IT, and that part of you FOR LIFE. Even if he turns unto a scum bag the moment he huts into you, YOU CAN NOT TAKE IT BACK. But he has bragging rights on it FOREVER. Ask yourself, it if were a new car, a plasma screen TV, 15 bank CDs worth thousands, or even an Ipod would you trust giving it to him just like that? Then why give him something that priceless, unless you want a booty call much that getting one is priceless to you?

Answer 2

Since you are a virgin, I think you might want to save it for someone you really love and want to start a relationship with. If you really aren't looking to have a relationship right now, then you two might just enjoy each other's company in other ways. You should not have sex with him because he is emotional or depressed. Having sex is your choice and your choice only. If you are a virgin, my advice not choice is to wait until you want to start a relationship with someone you feel that you have a future with. You should not be sensitive to someone else's feelings and be pressured into sex if you don't want a relationship at all. If he doesn't understand that, then he is not worth your time, even if you will hurt him emotionally and make him depressed. Of course, after meeting him for a month, and if he is that clingy and feels that he will be emotional or depressed, I'd be worried. Another thing is that he has had sex with other girls, so how do you know if he wasn't just using them for sex and playing an emotional/depression angle which could be something he is trying to do. I may be wrong there as well but I don't think you should have sex with someone you don't want a relationship with. You save it for the one you care about a lot and love. Even if it is until marriage.

Answer 3

Well up until that last sentence I was going to tell you that if you tell him you want to have sex but nothing beyond that and he agrees, rock on sister. But seeing as though you are a virgin and 19, I would wait for something more serious to come along. I lost my virginity at 15, but I was a few months into my relationship and here we are 10 year later, engaged. Just make sure that you won't regret it afterwards. Try to think of 5 or 10 years down the road, when you think back to your first time do you want it to be like that. I regret my first time, not the person, just my age.

Answer 4

Well first of all, you are a virgin. So keep that in consideration. Second of all you have known him for a month. ONE MONTH. ok?

Next, you are wrong about the fact that one would not want to have sex if he or she had been hurt by another relationship. Infact it is quite the OPPOSITE. He might be looking for a way to get back and you will be his tool.

Last of all, you answered the question yourself, you aren't in it for the relationship then what else could you be in it for? Go **** the **** out him right now you silly woman.

But let me advice you, you will probably regret it later. But hey, it's your life, and you make it or break it.

Answer 5

No, don't have sex with him. Men like sex no matter what. Even when they are depressed, I would think that is when they need sex the most regardless if he was hurt. It sounds kind of absurd that after sex with a girl, that girl would leave him? Maybe he was the one who left them. Doesn't sound right my friend. That sounds like a plea for you to feel bad for him and say yes to him for sex. Please, don't do it. I mean, how was he used for sex? unless he was molested......then I would think he wouldn't want sex. If a girl left him, maybe it was because he was a horrible lover (doubtful) or there was something wrong with his private parts. Don't fall for it.....Additionally, men love virgins....they have such an ego when they have a chance to be the first to get into you.

Answer 6

If you are not looking for a relationship, it is only fair that you tell him so, and that would mean that you are not yet ready to have sex with him. Having sex, at least in polite society (whatever that is) unless someone is just racking up numbers and notches on a gun, is usually a bit of a committment. You appear not yet ready for a committment, so be honest -- that sex has to mean something to you, and as yet he, and a relationship with him, does not mean anything to you, and that at this point, you do not see the two of you together for any kind of a future..... good luck

Answer 7

well....there is so many possibilities...do you love him...no...do you want a relationship...no...do you feel sorry for him...yes...why did the other girls leave? Why is it that you think you should have sex with someone you do not want to have a relationship with? Just to have fun? Is that a good answer? Think this over before you just jump in bed with a person...that ... you... think is emotional/depressed. Depression can lead to other things that you might not want to get into.

Answer 8

Most guys who say that so the girls would feel bad for them and they would give it up easily. Plus you are right, if he was hurt so badly, he wouldnt want it right away or even bother to ask for it. If you have no feelings for this guy, dont do it. Dont do it cause it seems like he is going to use you. And if you told him that you are a virgin, he will just try even harder to get into your panties.

Answer 9

No. There's already too much drama. One or both of you will definitely end up hurt. Wait until you're with someone who's not being so manipulative (sorry, that's how he comes across with his reminding you how hurt he is....) and wait until you're with someone who's not so emotional and depressed. It's not your responsibility that they're depressed....don't let them turn it into your "fault" that they become even more so because of something you do or choose not to do.

Answer 10

Okay if you have to ask people on answers you should have sex with then the answer is NO YOU SHOULDN'T.
With that said if all these girls just suddenly left him after they had sex with him he is most likely really small and horrible in 'bed'.Don't waste you time and move on.