my mom doesn't always understand why i do the things i do and why i act the way i do.she thinks that i get my ideas and attitude and stuff from my friends who are kinda like the mean girls in the class, but really, i just get it all from her...she doesnt always understand that i do the things i do becuase it is what i like to do and it is who i am.....she doesnt get the fact that she can't tell me who i have to be.
2006-06-11 09:58:19 · 8 answers · asked by the oc lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sure you're going through puberty. You and your parents are acting the right way.
You're at a fork in the road. This is where you have to decide which road to take. You will need help in that area - believe it or not your parents are trying to lead you to the right road.
Try listening more. One of the ways you can take the right road without much pain to anyone is to try talking in a mature way with your parents. Do not speak with both at the same time.
Try talking to your mom or dad while driving or in the yard or something.
Find out what they expect from you and tell them how you plan to conduct your life so you don't get in trouble.
I promise you they will listen and be impressed.
2006-06-11 10:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Providing actual examples might give us better understanding of where the conflict is. Concerned parents generally want to make sure you aren't heading down the wrong path in your attitudes and associations. Are you being as honest as you could about what you like to do and why and is she being as honest as she could about how and why she expects you to act a certain way? You both need to have conversation about why you are having these differences of opinion. This may not change her mind, but it may help you understand where she is coming from.
2006-06-11 17:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by oh, yes! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 28 and I am still trying to figure that one out!!! All I can tell you is to be yourself, but let your behavior reflect that you are mature and than you know how to act. If she sees that you are being responsible, she may not understand you, but she should learn to respect you for the young lady you are!
2006-06-11 17:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by mzstorm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 and still have that problem with my Mom, she tends to want to blame others for my actions, even though I have always accepted responsibility for my actions, between arguing, praying, and alot of time, she does see me for who I am. I guess they want to blame others, cause they don't want to think you are capable of doing anything wrong. Maybe, its sounds logical to me, anyway. Just try talking to her, sometimes its difficult, but at least you can say you tried. Good Luck.
2006-06-11 17:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by spoiled_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try waiting until you grow up a little and find out that your mom isn't as bad as you think. You're just a kid still, you don't know who you are yet.
2006-06-11 17:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by MED_SCHOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is kinda like my thing i really have hidden myself and no one really knows the real me. people think they do but they don't. i have hidden myself from every1u havent so just try to talk to her. talk about family and try to find out something that u and ur mom think alike about. like what do u think bout sum family member or what her favorite subject in school was. and then try to tell her about ur life see if she wants to listen. all u have to do is talk to her.
2006-06-11 17:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to meet in the middle of the road as she is your mother and you have to get along with her until you're old enough to move out.
2006-06-11 17:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somewhere along the way you two have to meet on middle ground if you are to get along.
2006-06-11 17:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Iron Rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋