Why do people think it is okay to hit children?

Question

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T062100.asp

Adults should not hit eachother, why are children any different?

panther_pink: that isn't respect, that is fear.. and there is a difference

holla-back-girl T: you are supposed to hit dogs? i've never hit my dog, and she is very well behaved

Answer 1

Hey, that is my favorite site. It is very educational for parents who spank. I hope everyone reads it. Thanks for passing it along. I am glad you are against hitting.
After reading everyones response, they didn't even read the link!!! I bet all their answers would change if they actually read it??

Answer 2

The people who think it is okay to hit their children are usually with those beliefs because they were hit when they were raised and they figure that they came out pretty good, therefore, that is what today's kids need.. Realistically speaking, most of today's kids are out of control, the sex, the drugs, alcohol, and that is what these parents fear, that their kids will not have that respect towards them. They have not tried talking and treating children with respect, as that was never taught to them by their own parents, you have to first see how the parents were raised and the tradition will always follow..

Answer 3

Spanking doesn't have to be your only disciplinary tool. I did go the site, and I disagree with a lot of what's there. There is a BIG difference between discipline and abuse. I was spanked and verbally abused as a child. The spankings have faded from my memory. The verbal abuse has not. It really depends on the offense. I've learned recently that putting my children in a corner works better than spanking in most cases. Let me guess? That's abuse, too? Blah....people wonder what's wrong with kids today...it's because the parents won't be parents.

Answer 4

Okay, is the wrong word. Justified would be a better word.

Not that I think children are pets but in order to teach them right from wrong, the same techniques used to train a pet would be required. You are told to swat the pet on the bottom or the nose in extreme cases. This would be true for children except for the nose part. You would need to swat the child on the bottom in extreme situations.
Not because the parent does not know what else to do, but as a true discipline for an extreme act.

What is extreme? That depends on the culture and up bringing. But I would hope Stealing would be one in all cultures.

Answer 5

I do not know the answer to that question. I think it is a belief if you inflict pain on a child then the behavior will improve because they do not want to be in pain. I do not believe in hitting children but I guess it is up to the parents on whether they do or not. I do not believe that either, you are right if you hit an adult even if they are being a jerk it is not right. I don't know why people treat children so bad I guess it is because they can. It sucks...

Answer 6

do you mean hit like punch or hit like spank their disobediant little butts? adults like to spank each other sometimes, so your analagy is wrong. It is okay to discipline your child with a spank or a slap, or washing mouth out with soap, it gets their attention and is about all the little beasts understand. fear and respect are good things if used well. its not your job as a parent to be best friends and huggy kissy 100% of the time.

Answer 7

It''s not that it isn't OK it's just a form of respect...well let me say it like this...if you back talk mamma you can expect a slap in the face that will teach you not to disrespect the parents so actually it is OK because to me it doesn't matter it's your child you can do whatever you want to as long as it isn't you know......but I was raised liked that so I'm not going to say that it isn't OK to whoop your kids. It's very necessary! I'mma do my kids like that too. Sorry if u don't wanna vote as best answer but hey just tellin you like it is!

Answer 8

OK, lady
what do you do when your 3 year old kid socks your 85 year old grandmother in the face? what do you do when he picks up a 2 pound chihuahua puppy and throws it? what? deny him access to the dog? i'm not going to cage one so the other can have free reign. when my son acts like a beastly little terrorist, i treat him like one and the behavior fades very quickly.
he gets two warnings / opportunities to modify his own behavior then on the third count, he gets consequence. when he hits or hurts somebody (or something, IE the puppy or the cat), he in turn gets hurt on an equivalent level to what he inflicted. it's common sense.
follow it up with common sense..... i ask him, "you don't like that do you? do you think ***** liked what you did to them? then don't do that again, or you'll get punished again". because of that my son is (for the most part) much kinder to my animals, to my family, and to me.
at three and almost a half, i barely find myself in the position to have to discipline him anymore. he's much easier to talk to and he understands things on a much more cerebral level. he's still a very physical child, he's just not violent anymore.
fight fire with fire. mommy's flame is bigger.

Answer 9

well it depends if you are like whipping and beating the child that is wrong but i grew up with spankings and within 15 minutes i forgot all about it(the spanking not the lesson i learned)

Answer 10

hitting and spanking are two totally different things. spanking is for discipline, hitting is good for nothing. if you don't know the difference you need help!!!!