I recently broke up with my boyfriend and am feeling rather down. Most of my friends are in relationships and some don't want them at all... I know I need to get out more & "look" but I can be a rather shy person. I have told some other friends (singles) to let me know when they are going out to the movies etc, but I hardly ever hear from them regardless. I know I don't want to jump into anything right away because I still have feelings for my ex, but I know it isn't healthy to dwell on him. One good friend has told me to concentrate on me, but I really miss being close with someone. I am confused about what do to as a next step. I would appreciate some direction from people who know what I am going thru.
2006-06-11 09:14:33 · 6 answers · asked by oh, yes! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel ya, really do. Your friend is so right, u really need time to focus on u. One thing i would suggest u do is write down as many things as u can consisting of things u wanna accomplish. And one at a time begin doing them! Next, to get out more, i know u are shy but why dont u ignitiate the next outing. Call a friend and say "im going to the movies tonight, wanna come?"..Or beach or whateva. The best way to get over someone is to go through the emotions, reminisce al lthe memories, laugh, cry and get it ALL out. Then you spoil yourself. Eat a pie a chotolate or too, indulge for a day. Then buy yourself something nice like a new really HOT outfit for this summer. Then u start doing positive things for yourself. Listen to strengthing music or songs. I love listening to MC. Mariah is awesome.
Recommended Strengthing Mariah Songs. Download from LimeWire or something.
1. Cant Take That Away (Rainbow Album)
2. My Saving Grace (Charmbracelet Album)
3. Fly Like A Bird (Emancipation of MiMi)
4. I Am Free (Day Dream Album).
5..Prisoner Of Your Love (Mariah Carey Debut Album)
6. There For Me (Single)
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7. No More Drama - Mary J Blige
8. Cant Nobody Hold Me Down - Puffy
9. Stronger - Britney Spears
10. Flighter - Christina Aguilera
2006-06-11 09:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am going through the same thing right now. I dumped him yet I still have feelings for him too. I guess what I can say is it gets better over time and if you do focus on things you like that make you happy then it eases the pain. If you did something before you went out with him that you enjoyed but stopped because of him start doing that thing again (unless of course it is self-abusive). I hope this helps you and feel free to e-mail me sane_lunitic@yahoo
2006-06-11 09:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Flo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to what you are going through and it is tough. People will say time heals all and everything will work out in the end, but what does that mean? Concentrate on what makes you happy and what you want out of life. If you work, focus on that in the short time; if you enjoy sports, train harder; if you enjoy reading, find a new topic that interests you. You get the idea. Good Luck!
2006-06-11 09:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by behind_blue_eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing easy about this question. I was married for ten years, and my wife cheated, and left taking everything. now I hardly ever see my kids, and most of my friends lead their own lives. All you can really do is take it one day at a time, and don't be afraid to move on. The next time you find your self thinking about him, tell yourself that he isn't thinking about you. It hurts but, it will help you stop thinking about him. Try a little dating, even if its not what you want to do. you will soon find that you will miss him less, and don't be afraid to date someone you wouldn't normally date you might just find a new love. all else fails try church, volunteering at church can be rewarding, and keep you busy so that you don't think about all that you lost.
2006-06-11 09:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jason L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest that you join an organization--service, civic, political, social, religious or cultural--where you will meet people and have something to occupy your time. This will get you going again, and maybe you'll meet someone with whom you can strike up a relationship. Good luck.
2006-06-11 09:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You overlooked 2: LIFE, AND WHY? God made you in view that He loves you. You have the sort of factor known as 'intent', that's why you're distinct, considered one of a style. That makes you 'unique', unique to not me, who cares approximately me, however unique to the one that created you--God. So, having coming to this end it might do you such a lot well, to seek His will on your existence, and reside it to the exceptional of your potential. Good success.
2016-09-08 23:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋