2006-06-11 08:11:44 · 37 answers · asked by Rowlands 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
After a church wedding, I guess you got to now apply for a court divorce.
Look man, it all depends on your relationship with your wife. If you just can't live without her, you got to let her decide what she wants to do regarding this wedding and the child. The child will be her decision first and your decision next.
2006-06-11 19:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by simba 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not a question any one else can answer for you. My ex. and I were married for 2 yrs. and had a son. then see had a girl after she claimed that she was raped by a supposed Friend. After the divorce ( related to and not related to the incident) I found out from others that there was no rape it consensual and there were other times and other men. I have never had my daughter tested nor will I ever. My thought is -I am a much better DAD than any of those other men will ever be, I have respect for their mother when their mother or other men did not have any me. That's the kind of person I want my children to be, respectful to others and them selves. So now you decide what kind of life do you what for this child? But your life with your wife will never be the same. I wish you the best of luck and believe me, I know that it hard as hell but you will over come. Need to talk you can email me through answers, I hope i can be some relief.
2006-06-11 08:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by carpenterslavemoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your wife is only 2 months pregnant as you
said, it is too soon to know that the baby is not yours okay.... when she gives birth, or rigth after giving birth you could have DNA test or paternity test and that will not lie to you it will give you the RIGHT answer if the baby is yours or not,. Only then can you say that the baby is not yours. do not believe gossips of other people if there is anything you need to clarify talk to your wife, but not until you get the DNA results because this is a very sensitive issue. Remember you have A life together now, give her a chance to prove to you that that is your baby she is carrying...
2006-06-11 09:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by pinky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really difficult, firstly you've got a massive sense of betrayal and rightly so (and are you absolutely sure?) Secondly could you still love her after all is said and done? The baby when it's born will know you as dad, a father is just a donor, a dad is the parent and the carer, the child will love you unconditionally. But you need to decide soon because it would be awful for the child if you walk out later. Good luck.
2006-06-11 08:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious answer is to do a runner and seek legal advise.
On the other hand you might ask yourself :
1 Do you love her madly, passionately, absolutely?
2 Is she the lady you want to spend your whole life with?
3 Can you forgive?
4 Can you love the baby as if it were yours and lavish it with love and affection for at least 18 years?
5 Do you trust her?
If the answers are all a resounding YES then you know what to do.
If there are too many NO answers or Maybe's then sadly its over between you.
Be brutal with both yourself and her.
Hey maybe the kid's yours anyway but so what?
2006-06-11 08:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Paul R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely your decision. If you love her and can deal with bringing up a baby which is not your own then try it. I would assume she cheated although if you had a "whirlwind" romance she could have already been pregnant I suppose. If you want/can forgive her for the betrayal then do so. As long as you won't end up resenting the baby. If you can not do that, you could have the marriage annulled I think. You might want to get a dna test if the baby could be yours but you won't be able to do that until after the baby is born.
2006-06-14 11:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Evil J.Twin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since after church wedding the couple is not allowed to divorce and remarry (at least for Christians), then if you love your wife, let her give birth but agree that she will take the child to the real father thereafter.
2006-06-11 20:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by lone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are u so sure its not yours? If youve confirmed it and the baby isnt yours then remember your wedding vows cos definately you must have said that you'll love her for better for worse.
Find out who the baby is for then find out if she's even ready to continue the marriage thing as in still be married to you.
If the explanation is worth it and she still wants to be with you, then i see no reason why you shouldnt keep her as your wife cos its her you love and if you love her, then you should love everything about her.
Another thing, let God into your lives both and you'll see the changes in your marriage. God keeps us and would do what we ask of him if we allow him onto our lives.
God disagree with divorce, ask for his help in making the right decision about your wife.
Other people & i can only advice but the decision is yours!!!
2006-06-11 08:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Incredible! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you not think its yours do the dates not add up or are you running scared? do you love your wife? could you forgive her for being unfaithful? could you raise a child that wasnt biologically yours? are you sure you havent just gotten a little scared and overwhelmed by the big wedding and a baby in such a short space of time? why dont you talk to your wife and find out whats going on?
2006-06-14 10:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by tra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is make your own mind up about your next step. Sit and talk to your wife. There was a reason you married her. can you cope with another mans child? Think about what you want and then how to get it. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-06-11 21:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by KatieO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋