My fiancée and I split up about 6 months ago after being together for 4 1/2 years. We have a 2 1/2 year old son together. The first months of the breakup were hard, communication wise. He barely made an effort with his son. About a month ago, he has been calling me and wanting to be friends. We go out and he flirts with me. He told me he still loves me and wants to be around me, but doesn't want anyone. We aren't currently being physical at all. The other night I asked to kiss him and he rejected me. Like I said he doesn't want anyone. Can any guys give me a clue as to why he is acting like this?
2006-06-11 08:04:21 · 8 answers · asked by sweet_bella06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was about to answer your question and then I started to think that there isn't a pole long enough to get me to even attempt to answer you. I will anyways. Okay, here goes. I think your fiance is mixed up. He should be spending time with his son at least, even if you and he have issues. This is why I say I think he is mixed up. He may have been cheating on you and it didn't work out for him and now he wants what he had back again but he is afraid that he has some infection or something so he tells you he doesn't want anyone. It sounds like he is messing up big time. This is my perspective if you and he are in your twenties or younger. If you are in your 30s or 40s his behavior doesn't make sense because I don't think he would cheat and then cover it up with lies and I think he would spend time with his son at least.
I think you both are young and he is messing up in more than one way. This is only my opinion. I am not a cheater and your fiance's behavior doesn't make sense to me unless I examine it from what I think a cheater might do. Hey, if he is willing to cheat on you , maybe he is willing to lie about it to by saying something like I don't want anyone. Everyone wants someone. He isn't being honest. That is my gut feeling.
2006-06-11 08:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is try to be a father to his son. but what he might wont form you is just a friend you may think that he is flirting w/ you but he may not see it that way. it go's both ways if it was you i would still have the some words. he might have tryed to see someone eles but it was just not there. the truth is that it can't get better. it can only change in the way you two handel the issue of being parents to your son. it is about him know not you two. it is over you two are not in the same bed. if it dose work out get back to me. cause i know that it will not
2006-06-11 16:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by you have ? i have a answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having an identity crisis. Been there. He's having doubts about himself. This could be hazardous. (seeing other women,etc). Maybe he's coming to terms that he's not playing house and that this is life he must choose.
2006-06-11 15:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by hiplaque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he is lonely. He likes your company to overcome his lonliness, however, he wouldn't want to lead you on and have you think that he wants something more than he is willing to give.
2006-06-11 15:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants u he just testin u to c if like him back 4 u c if a guy were just to go at it and u made look like a fool then he would feel like crap so hes just testin u
2006-06-11 15:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by bacon r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't want you to take him to court for child support.
2006-06-11 15:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by gallopingaardvark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want you plain and simple..but you feed is ego and he probably can't find somebody else.
2006-06-11 15:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been tested for AIDS?
2006-06-11 15:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋