why are most singl people desparet for boy/girl freinds?
[I'm singl]
2006-06-11 07:58:54 · 24 answers · asked by emavigailh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is a matter of self-esteem. You feel worth less when you are alone, however, that does not have to be. You really can focus on yourself, find out who and what you are and what your limitations are and validate yourself in that knowledge instead of feeling lonely because you can't validate yourself in another.
I am a widow and am alone, I am happy with myself and do not need a partner to validate myself. I have my agenda as well, and I do not wait for a man to come around.
Building your self-esteem is easy. Look at what your talents are and keep on developing them. Look at how you are and try to throw out things you don't like(i.e., do you have a tendency to interrupt people, do you talk too fast, etc.)
Look at your physical appearance and change what you don't like(unless it is something you cannot change, i.e. your nose, short legs, long legs, etc). All this will bring you to a point where you love yourself, and if you love yourself people can see that--and in all likelihood are you going to be desperate for some time with yourself then. You have to love yourself, like what you see in the mirror---and that will reflect in your entire personality, because then yourself-esteem will soar and you will have a much easier time to find someone.
Learn to accept the things you cannot change too. We all cannot change things like the size of our feet, the length of our legs, or the size of our noses---but we sure can make the very best out of what we got. You don't have to be a beauty queen to love yourself, and you also don't have to have extreme good talents to love yourself, all you have to do is make the best of yourself--inside and outside, and you will never be desperate for any relationship/comanionship.
2006-06-11 08:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is society that says you have to be with someone to have a "normal" life. This is sad because I have been divorced for over 10 years now after ending a relationship filled with drugs and alcohol abuse and an unfaithful wife. Being "alone" at first gave me a chance to heal the wounds, build myself back up--pick up myself off the ground and become the person that I thought I should be. I like being alone, though I do date, but until I find that special person comes along, I will remain single. Why feel pressured to make the same mistake twice by dating and, more so, marrying just because of disparity and loneliness.
2006-06-11 08:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by azguitar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U may not be desparet but some girl may have broke up with their man
2006-06-11 08:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has a lot to with society's taboo outlook in regards to being single. Single people tend to get looked down upon like there is something wrong with them that they can't get a man/woman. This pressure I think comes not only from outside sources, but the individual himself/herself. If you think about it, the older you get the more looked down upon you are in society for having stayed single. Sad but I think true.
2006-06-11 08:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mother of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sex mainly and also for the reason that when they see other couples they fell that they are lacking something inside them that is causing them to stay single .And hence the get more and more desperate for a girlfriend or boyfriend.
2006-06-11 08:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by bhooot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the simple reason that men (not boys), no matter what you think, prefer women/girls who can spell, speak good English and have some respect for themselves. You all appear to be throwing yourselves at men and there is no mystery left in love.
2006-06-11 08:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single people eventually ge lonley. That is the answer. Find a way to keep the lonley away, and the desparation will go away.
2006-06-11 08:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Thickness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm single but I'm not desperate. Being a single doesn't make you a loser or anything. I just chose not to date. Well, it depends I guess. Those who were dumped get to be desperate.
2006-06-11 08:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by sar-mir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not desperate and Im single. I geuss alot of single people are just losers.
2006-06-11 08:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Lemons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose because it is believed one does not make completeness.
That one needs another to feel whole. I expect that's also why yunguns move too quickly into sex, expecting it is love.
And WHERE any of these ideas come from...baffles me.
2006-06-11 08:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋