Don't you think it's best to let the bride-to-be make it anyway she wants it to be?
2006-06-11 06:51:49 · 15 answers · asked by MattEMatt 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's up to each couple. Most guys don't care much about the planning of the wedding. However, if a guy does want to help, there are things he could be very helpful with such as:
-Choosing a band or dj
-Planning the honeymoon
-Helping to choose the wedding cake flavors
-Helping to choose the food for the reception
-Choosing his tux and the groomsmens tuxes
-Writing his vows
Every couple is different and every groom is different. My husband planned the honeymoon and chose his tux. That was the extent to which he cared to be involved and that was fine by me because I had alot of specific preferences and he didn't have many at all.
2006-06-11 08:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is about both people. I'll bet that the bride 2 be would be thrilled that her guy has an opinion about the wedding. He should really play it by ear, she if she asks for his input or not. When I was planning my wedding, I loved the fact that my husband helped out, and I tried to do things they way he wanted to when he actually had an opinion on something (i.e he didn't want to see me before the wedding, he really didn't want a sweetheart table).
2006-06-11 06:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course the guy should have some say in the wedding but women are just better wedding planners in my opinion. You should help out with the location, date, cake, etc. but the other details like place settings and things like that are best left for the bride-to-be unless you truly want to help then of course by all means go for it.
2006-06-11 07:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by nh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groom should be very involved - it's not the bride's day - it's the COUPLES' DAY. My husband was very involved in our wedding and loved giving imput and having say in things. I was happy because it meant something to him. Everyone kept saying "it's YOUR day" and I would correct them and say no, it's OUR day. It made it so much more special and we were able to make sure we got everything we wanted. It will be a day to remember always. :)
2006-06-12 03:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as he wants. I didn't really involve my husband that much. I asked his opinion on things, but he told me that the wedding is more for me then for him. If he had it his way we would be married at home with nobody there but us and the priest. He just wanted to get married, but whatever I wanted was ok with him so I planned it all out. He loved it, but to be honest...what guy cares about flowers and bridesmaid dresses and decorations? I was perfectly happy doing the planning myself. He would have just got in the way and his answer to everything would have been..."If you like it then get it" Girls who want 50/50 in the planning are usually dreaming because it just doesn't happen that way.
2006-06-11 11:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as he wants to have - it's his wedding too! My husband let me do most of the planning, but I wish he would have wanted to be more involved!
2006-06-11 07:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres your answer.
I just got married last september.Now my wife an her associates plan the whole thin ,mom freinds ect.Me When I seen her walk down the walk way It was all i could not to cry because she was so beautifull an the woman of my dreams.Its all i wanted minus me picking out how i was gonna look at my wedding
2006-06-11 08:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by smpaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and Yes. I think that it is sweet that a guy wants to be a part of the planning. Women, however, want their big day to be very special. But this is a special day for both of you. So really it's to the both of you.
2006-06-11 11:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by jennmil88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes two to tango ( or get married) so both should be involved, but I guess the decisions for the flowers, bridesmaid dresses etc can be left to the bride
tackle the larger things together, like the reception place, wedding area , invites etc
2006-06-11 06:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groom has just as much say as hers. I hate the bull **** when people say "It is the bride's day". No it isn't. It is the Groom's as well. You are BOTH getting married and should both be happy. If you both can't compromise then don't get married.
2006-06-12 02:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋