I've been dating a guy on and off for a year... and even though he's treated me unthoughtfully, never does anything special for me, or ever go out of his way to take care of me... I KEEP GOING BACK TO HIM...
He's 13 years older than me and has kids.... I'm 32 single and have no kids... There really is NO reason why I should put up with any of this...
But I DO... and I CONTINUE to...
HOW DO I STOP!!!???!?!?!
2006-06-11 06:50:12 · 7 answers · asked by Sienna Baker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well im 18 and i went out with a guy for 3 yrs on and off till last year. He also never did anything 4 me and i was the one making all the effort. He would never come and see me or anything. Although he treated me like this i was totally in love with him and couldnt stop. I got over him nearly a year ago now when one of his best mates got my number and we've been together ever since. At first i still thought about my ex and i knew it was wrong to be with his mate. I recently found out that my ex wants me now, NOW. It took him this to make him realise but i dont care any more. My advice is to go out and maybe swap ya number with a cute guy. Take it slow and get to know the guy and i promise u will hate the way this guy has treated u. Good luck babe and i hope everything works out
2006-06-11 07:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact from the fiction, the truth from the diction. The reason you can not(or do not)want to move on because at 32 you have pause that you will find another near as good as you have(which ain't that good) The relationship may not be the best, but it is one. And if you can't make this work, the next(even though it maybe 500 times better)could be way off in the distance. Which means no comfortable, reliable, somewhat safe regular sex. But you have express already it(the relationship) is not working for you, at least not on a social or emotional level. Ask yourself, what IS IT that makes the relationship so appealing? If you have to get a piece of paper. Fold it in half. Write on the left side all the things that are bad , lacking, or needs improvement. On the right, all the things that is good about the relationship and see which list is bigger. If the left is way longer than the right, ween your self off the sex and move on.
2006-06-11 22:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a reason. It's called his children and you obivously want children. I went through a similar situation. I saw this woman for 3 yrs and then married her for 3 more yrs because she had children and I don't. She treated me terribly and cheated on me the entire time. When I finally admitted to my self what I was doing I made a change in my life. I got a divorce and fought for visitation and got it. Now I am much happier and after 2 yrs of being on my own I am starting to seriously look for a girlfriend. Hope this helps you out.
2006-06-11 07:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by gallopingaardvark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to stop going back especially when you love and care for someone so much, but you do need to find a way to stop, I wish I knew the answer to this difficult situation. I'm in the same position, but been with them for much longer, and at times I feel unloved and just like its a waste of time, it hurts, I'm trying my hardest just to stop all communication with this person. I've tried saying good bye and talking it over with them, but he knows me so well, he know exactly what to say to keep me in his life, but the time has come for me to just get up and leave, so that I can give myself some sanity....lol.
2006-06-11 07:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by spoiled_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself have been with the same man for 16 years we have 5 kids together and never got married. I've been through lies, cheating, and abuse but yet i stay. I feel in my heart that i love him so much that i could never leave him. He does have his good qualities that causes me to stay. I want him, i don't want him but yet i don't want anyone else to have him either. I really cant tell you how to stop cause i need that answer myself but before you go as long as i have try anything you can for the sake of your own sanity!
2006-06-11 07:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find yourself some security. Quit being so insecure. Nobody should put up with that crap. There are plenty of good men me out there who know how to love and know how to treat a woman. Why do you all keep going back for abuse? Go find someone else. Just make yourself quit talking and seeing him. He is a bad habit. Drop it.
2006-06-11 07:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Texas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to get a life! Life is too short to waste your time on losers! Put your thoughts and energy in your friends, your family, your work, anything but this loser! Get a hobby or part time job doing something you really enjoy, join a gym.......you can meet somebody worthy of your time and affection! Attitude is everything, its about YOU, you are special. Treat yourself like you are !
2006-06-11 06:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋