The problem is tht he isn’t financially strong. I don’t mind that, but at times my mind tells my heart 2 leave him as I can get many more who are much more financially stronger than him n I;m sure about it frm my past xperiences. Please help me!!!!!1 Y do these thoughts come in2 my head. I love him a lot.
2006-06-11 06:45:28 · 22 answers · asked by sonia s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it didn't matter, it wouldn't matter, right? My ma always told me, "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich girl!" I guess she new that it didn't matter to me, and furthermore that I would never be rich! The time to compromise is after getting married. You should not feel you're compromising concerning WHO you marry.
2006-06-11 08:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by MattEMatt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually his ability to take care of himself comes into play. What's more important than earning power is financial stability and the willingness to be wise about money. It's also important that the couple are financially compatible: If wifey's spending on the kids first, the house second and herself last, she won't be happy about expensive booze and digital gadgetry topping HIS spending list. Those are the differences that strain marriage. I've heard of a happy couple where the husband works as a masseuse only 6 months of the year - but he's working regularly for those 6 months and bringing in enough money to justify the 6 months he doesn't work. She works too and appreciates the time he spends with the kids when he's not working. They're happier than couple 1 even though that 1st husband makes much more money!
2016-03-15 02:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These thoughts come into your head because you are tring to warn yourself that you are making a horrible decision! Give him an aultimatum....Get a real job, or be single! That's just how it is. You can love him all you want, but love don't pay the bills or put food on the table, and you KNOW that this is the truth! If you decide to stay with him anyway, then you can't expect others to listen to you whine about how screwed up your relationship is, because you chose to be that way. Good luck.
2006-06-11 06:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by furnace4bro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that IS a problem. Listen, you're only being honest with yourself! Trust me, you DON'T want to be standing at the altar with this huge doubt hanging over your future with him! It will probably be emotionally difficult because you love him, but I think that marrying him is out of the question, at least for now! Never discount the fact that your future with another can be MUCH happier and more importantly to you, MORE SECURE!! Let the poor guy off the hook, I'm sure he's a pretty great guy! But YOU would be happier with another; remember, you're only being honest with yourself!!
2006-06-11 06:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rebooted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think it is, is that you are getting worried that you might have made a mistake on who you are going to marry. But remember that if you love this man then you guys should make it work regardless of anyones financial status! What if the tables were turned? And you were the one with the financial instability? Would you want your man to be second guess whether or not to marry you just because of that? That isn't fair.
2006-06-11 06:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money is no meassure of happiness. All it can get you is material things. If you love the guy then be with him and be happy. If all you want is money than move on and let someone else have this man. I understand about financial security, wanting to be able to pay your bills and stuff but if it's luxuries and other stuff you want but don't need , then you're looking at it all wrong.
2006-06-11 06:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i had left a guy just because he couldnt support me financially, id never be happy nor would i be married right now! money isnt the most important thing in the world! if you love him as much as you do, you learn to work it out. finances come later. I know what I can afford and know what I cant. money dont solve all problems dear! let love rule...not something that will keep you from being truly happy!!!
2006-06-11 06:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for heaven sake just make sure that ur love is authentic bcos many relationship of such to some ends up in divource and thank God u are a lady bcos most lady never want 2 be submissive,if u know that u will always love and obey him u can go on if not there is a high danger ahead
2006-06-11 06:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's more important... the relationship you have with someone who loves you and whom you love, or money? I guarantee you that if you marry only for money, you will come to regret it. True love is so rare these days. If you've found it, I highly recommend that you GO FOR IT!
2006-06-11 06:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You doubts about financial matters are well founded. However if you proceed with the MARRIAGE at this point, your doubts could DRIVE a WEDGE in your RELATIONSHIP LATER. It's a good idea to discuss this with him NOW, and maybe you can BOTH plan for a BRIGHTER FUTURE TOGETHER !!!
2006-06-11 06:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by skycloud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋