How do you discipline your kids?

Question

My kids never respondto being punished, time outs or corner time what do I do?

Answer 1

Watch "Nanny 911" and call the show

http://tv.yahoo.com/tvpdb?d=tvi&id=18086...

http://www.fox.com/nanny911/


THE 11 COMMANDMENTS OF NANNY 911

BE CONSISTENT
No means no. Yes means yes.

ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES
Good behavior is rewarded. Bad behavior comes with penalties.

SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN IT
Think before you speak—or you’ll pay the price.

PARENTS WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM
If you can’t be on the same page, your children are not going to know who to listen to—and they’ll end up not listening to anyone.

DON’T MAKE PROMISES YOU CAN’T KEEP
If you tell the kids you’re going to Disneyland, better get ready to pack your bag.

LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN
Acknowledge their feelings. Say “I understand” and “I am listening”—then take the time to understand and take the time to listen.

ESTABLISH A ROUTINE
Routines make children feel safe and give structure to their time.

RESPECT IS A TWO-WAY STREET
If you don’t respect your children, they are not going to respect you.

POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT WORKS MUCH BETTER THAN NEGATIVE REINFORCEMENT
Praise, pleasure, and pride accomplish far more than nagging, negatives, and nay-saying.

MANNERS ARE UNIVERSAL
Good behavior goes everywhere.

DEFINE YOUR ROLES AS PARENTS
It is not your job to keep your children attached to you. It’s your job to prepare them for the outside world—and let them be who they are.

Answer 2

The question is how are you punishing them? The key is to be stern and make them stay in that corner for the full amount of time and if they complain or move the time starts over. They can't have anything to play with (obviously) and no you other then you should talk to them. Also make sure you and the father are together on this. If you're both taking different approaches it will only show the child they can play the two of you against each other. And a little tap on the butt never killed anyone...

Answer 3

I'm always changing my ways to discipline them. That way they really never know what to expect. Sometimes I send him to his room or on his knees in the corner. Sometimes I take the TV/computer away for certain periods of time. Sometimes he's punished to his room for a certain amount of time. And sometimes it's a good old fashion spanking.

I think a lot depends on the age and interests of each child. I do understand your frustration though. Be patient and keep trying different things. Eventually you'll find out which works better on which kids.

Answer 4

Beat 'em.

Seriously, how old are they? Punishment should depend on the age of the child and the offense. When my son was 8 and he and his best friend set a garbage can on fire I did some serious spanking along with some serious talking, along with punishment - no tv, no friends over, no going outside for a couple of weeks. He never did that again.

I come from the old school and I really don't care how others feel about corporal punishment. My children are all doing well now - none of them has EVER been in trouble with the law and each one is gainfully employed and I have a great relationship with all 3. I never allowed "brattiness" or children talking back to me or not following the rules in my house. Children need rules and boundaries. My kids all know I love them with all my heart. I only spanked my kids when the offense warranted it and I punished them with no TV, no going outside, no seeing or calling friends for other things. I don't think there is one punishment that fits - you have to tailor it according to what they've done.

Answer 5

Sometimes, I don't care what a psychologist says, children need to be spanked and disciplined the hard way. Too many people are giving their kids the time out option and not having a back up for fear of back lash from their kids. If I am not correct, you are the bread winner, and anyone who can't pay their own rent will be diciplined until they learn the order of things. What I say goes and don't give them options. Children thrive on discipline and structure so gove it to them. When you say something stick to it. If they disobey you or sass you, whether it's in public or at home. get them right when it happens.

If you wait to discipline them when it is convenient for you, they will continue to walk over you because you have to discipline them at that moment .

Answer 6

Punishment is not a good tool for discipline and should only be used in extreme situations. And bringing up children is not a game, so forget your unsuitable sports terminology.

The only successful way to bring up and educate children is to give them a living example. Be to them what you want them to be later to their own children. Be aware that you are watched all the time, so slippings of standards, errors and mistakes will be seen and remembered by your children.
Besides being a strong, principled and positive leader, you have also to be their greatest and best fried, the one they can talk to about everything and come to with problems of all kinds. Never shout at them or use rude words, and never use physical means until absolutely nothing is left in your arsenal.

If you follow those instructions, you will have well-behaved and disciplined children who are growing up to be responsible and decent citizens. If not, you will have more problems with them in the future.

Answer 7

If you're very consistent with the punishment so that they know to expect it and there's no reason for them to think they're going to get away with the "bad" behavior, then time outs will work. But you have to also make sure they stay in the time out area and don't have anything fun to do. Other than that, all you can do is take away privileges (i.e. no video games or TV for a week) -- but again, consistency is the key to making it work, and don't threaten punishment and then not follow through with it.

Answer 8

Discipline for children = security! Discipline equals allowing your child to discover which his/her limitations are, thus providing security in the knowledge that if I step out of my boundaries, I'll receive punishment. Punishment can take on many variations and does not necessarily mean corporal punishment (hitting), although a good smack on the bum from time to time can be highly effective! Works out what you as a parent (the one administering the punishment) feels comfortable with, and find out what your child would feel comfortable with,i.e. withdrawal of certain privileges, etc, as alternatives to hitting, but make sure your child understand that this means punishment and learns to take responsibility for his/her actions. (My son needed stronger forms of punishment that his younger sister, and received a good number of smacks, whilst his sister perhaps received a hiding once or twice in her life. Yet both grew up to be extremely well-behaved you adults, who are now on their way to success in their chosen careers as well as well-adjusted adults in society).

Answer 9

Make them feel guilty for what they do... Dispense justice, make them believe in the idea that justice prevails... Let them know that as they do, so shall they recieve.. Let them realise their mistakes on their own...

As is said, The Burnt Child Dreads The Fire...

If the children do not commit smal mistakes, they will never learn to avoid the bigger mistakes they might commit when they grow up..

Let them know the difference between the good and the bad..

That should be enough... But let them have a fear of their parents, so that they are never tempted to do the wrong things in life..

Answer 10

You should have different levels of discipline therefore they'll know which things are worse than the others. If they do something (ex:The kid spilled something on the floor, knocked over a lamp, or something like that then you should just give him or her a spanking on their hand. They'll know you'd be disapointed in them. But if they do something really serious that tops it all give them a 'spankin' and yelling at and tell them to never do that thing again.

Answer 11

Never take anyones advice on spanking. This Dr Sears article tells you effective ways to discipline. It is long but worth the read. Always use professional advice instead of idiots who tell you to hit or beat them. Spanking is a wimpy, lazy way of parenting.