My husband is extremely depressed and has a history of bipolar disorder as well as OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).. Lately he had detached himself from me and our kids. He writes things about being numb of feelings, and that he is very dissatisfied with his life. I have tried to talk to him about it but he wont let me in.. He puts up this big wall. I have tried to get him out of the house on the days that he doesnt have to work. He doesnt want counseling or wont go because he says he cant keep from lying to them about himself... He says that the only person who truely knows him inside is me, and that no one else does because around everyone else he acts the way they do, he has been manipulative in the past to everyone even me for a period of time... There will be times he questions if he really loves me... and I dont know what to do. I know he's honest with me now, and the man has changed immensely from what he used to be and how he treated me.. but lately he has been in a rut --
2006-06-11 06:02:03 · 3 answers · asked by hearts_bleed_dark 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel helpless, he says he still loves me, but he wants something new to fill the void. Most of the time I never feel adequate enough for him... I dont know what to do to help him and help me... is there anything besides counseling that I can do to proove to him that he has a good life and that we need him.. Theres just not enough space to explain the situation... can anyone help?
2006-06-11 06:05:32 · update #1
Your husband seems to be unsatisfied with what you are now and including his life which certain thing's his not achieve yet or never being able to. Study yourself firstly is there somthing you use to do back then that would bring him smiles or enjoy doing with you? try your best to remember.Only you understand him more than anyone else take steps to improving yourself he needs all the attention he can get even if its a failure keep trying. There is somthing you might be doing which has gotten him in that state. Stick in dear you'll be in my prayers.
2006-06-11 06:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he taking medication? Is so, and it seems to not be helping, talk to his doctor about trying a different prescription. Therapy might be a good choice too! Depression is a disease. Until he gets help for that and the OCD, nothing you can do will help. Try to start doing things that make you happy. Go to councelling with him. And tell him you love him, but if he refuses to do therapy, then you are gonna drag his butt out of the house! Sitting there in that house day after day sure isn't helping him.
2006-06-11 06:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can help you look up Sgi -USA org. I Buddhist you can start chanting for his Happiness Chant this( Nam -Myoho- Renge- Kyo ) I can tell you this much it work if you want change then chant ... I tell you a secret no one live without sickness you have to help him sickness is part of life it his karma to help you understand your not alone .... listen your going to be OK he going to know your life condition effect his life he got a low life right now chant here here life condition is base on his sickness .. so do not stop learning from his life show appreciation for this .. overcome this.... I know what I talking about .... here something I can share
Happiness is not absence of struggles
. Happiness is to be undefeated in the face of any obstacle
It is not happiness for oneself alone those who can make others Happy
are people of happiness in the truest sense
2006-06-11 06:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋