Aight, you see...ive been a tomboy all my life, ive always grown up with guys. now i'm 14 and i am like one of the most popular girls in my class and i like it and all, but my new friends (the populars, i use to be more of an outcast last year, i know a miracle, right?) are girly. like they play all the sports and all, but they love to PARTY and wear MAKEUP. i dont own hardly any make up and of course i have been to parties with them, but they drink and stuff and i do once in a while. So, here is the problem: everytime iwear a skirt my mom freaks out and makes a big deal like:you are such a girly girl...i hate it and she knows it but i dont even know how to tell her that i want to wear make up without her going nuts. what can i tell herto make her COMPLETELY understand?
2006-06-11 05:57:56 · 18 answers · asked by Tic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a mom, but I have boys-14 and 12. Most moms know their girls will want to wear makeup at some point, you are actually older than I was when I started wearing it! Just ask, see what she says...feel her out. At least it'll start something in her head about it and let her know you are growing up! I think she reacts to your skirts because it is so cute to her (after all that time being a tomboy), AND it scares the crap out of her at the same time...because this is where you start to become a woman, and the problems that go along with THAT are astronomical! Good luck! I'm rooting for you!
2006-06-11 06:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by imaspazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably thinking you are moving to fast. Being a tomboy makes a mother feel less worried about you being fast. Try a little makeup at a time as she gets used to it. And a skirt once a week and then more as she gets used to it. There are lots of really cute girly girl jeans today. In the meantime don't change your habits because sometime that comes along with different clothes and that could also make your mom worry and try to not let you change your ways.
2006-06-11 06:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem only in reverse. I was always such a girly girl then i started listening to rock music and i decided that i wanted to stand out not fit in. Now I wear Tripp pants (those black pants with chains) and eyliner and stuff. I talked to my mom. Now I'm happy apparntly so is my mother, she says she's proud that i don't want to fit in. Just tell your mother how you feel she will understand. And Don't think just because your freinds are doing something means that you have to. Like the drinking and stuff, yea don't do it. If you want to be "preppy" be preppy but don't change becasue you think that it will help you with your friends. Your real friends will accept you for who you are. I found that out a while ago.
2006-06-11 06:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by rockthearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should print this out and give it to her, but I think that if you read it again yourself that you will see something maybe you didn't before. While it is GREAT to keep an open mind to all things like clothes and new colors and stuff, its also good to remember who you are! Don't change yourself for your friends, if they are your real friends they will still like you no matter what you wear. Just be you and don't be someone else, because when you are 25 it wont matter what you wore in school, it will just matter if your friends were good enough friends to still be around! Tell your mom that you want to try new things, but that if she keeps freaking out it will just push you away and you wont want her to help you make decisions anymore. Remind her that it wasn't that long ago that she was your age, and you don't need her freaking out and making big deals every time you want to wear a pink skirt or something, because then you wont want to anymore.
I really hope I helped! Good luck.
2006-06-11 06:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by lovesedea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her understand that ur friends wear a makeup when they are out partying or maybe in the school. Tell her that u wud not make a hip-hop of that thing. I mean a simple make up will be good for u as well as OK with ur mom, like, an eyeliner, lipstick, a little face powder and done. That shud suffice and it will not look bad.
2006-06-11 06:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Halle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is sit down with her and explain your feelings, it's tough as a parent to see your little girl going through changes as she gets older- me I'm lucky, i have 2 daughters 19 and 14-the oldest was always the one who made friends easily and got good grades in school and is in her first year of college with plans to be a doctor, and all she wanted to be was normal-the youngest... now there's a super kid-she's smart funny,goofy,has 5 holes in each ear that i gauged for her( 6,8,10,12,16) and has had hot pink hair for the last 2 years- the best thing a parent can do is let a child be themselves even if it's not exactly what we want you to be- i hope you can find the nerve to sit down with her and tell her your feelings about the changes you want to make- if there is anything i can do to help you out, and she knows you are on here asking questions, have her send me a message through the website, I'll do what i can ... hope it all goes well for you
2006-06-11 06:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Look mom, I know I've been a tomboy almost my whole life, but now I'm maturing and I can't stay a tomboy forever. I want to look nice, and be noticed by boys. It was bound to happen at some point, mom." Tell her that. Dude, she should have know from the start it was gonna happen at some point. Tell her that times has come. Hope I've helped!
2006-06-11 06:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by dotbrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lime will come in your life where you will want to make your own decisions. This is normal. The short fall is that you must wear those decisions, take responsibility for the outcomes. Whether or not your mother COMPLETELY understands you is not really relevant only that you listen to her with a desire to learn
2006-06-11 06:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by ellysium06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according y der is need 2 change u r self 4 others ...i think how ever u r u must b happy .i know at dis time of u r age any gal want 2 look attractive & preity b'cuz every gal want 2 be famous as others...ifu r mom is scolding she is scolding 4 u r own gud..........so don't try 2 give a different look but in d same old style something new & gorgeous.
2006-06-11 06:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by thundercope5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she want you to be a tomboy? not many parents do. i wear make up but not heavy like most girls. I don't think your mom will have a huge fuss over you wearing makeup. If she does, tell her that most parents don't care about their kids wearing make up. She's overreacting.
2006-06-11 06:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋