plzz answer.Is it important to apologize when we do something wrong?

Question

I never like to apologize to anyone eventhough i did something wrong.Is it a bad attitude?

Answer 1

It is bad manners to not apologize to someone when you have done something wrong to them. How would you feel if someone did something bad to you and never apologized?

Answer 2

An apology is always more healing for the one offering it than to the one that's been wronged. Always. You will realize this when you let apologies become a natural reaction to making a mistake - and, trust me, everyone makes mistakes. In fact, mistakes are critical to learning new things about ourselves and others.

Therefore, when you don't feel comfortable about apologizing, especially when you *know* that you're the one in the wrong, you need to more fully understand why you would want to hold on to the memory of having hurt someone else rather than to make some form of restitution so that you can go back to feeling better about yourself.

Could it be that not apologizing has become a habitual method for punishing yourself? If it is, you can change this. Recognize that self-punishment never really ends, you get stuck in the memory of the moment, while forgiving allows you to heal; let it go and move on.

Just remember, an apology to someone else is really the gift of forgiveness that you give to yourself for having gone against your own personal instincts about the situation in the first place.

Answer 3

Wow, it seems that a majority of people believe that you should apologize and that apologizing is a sign of maturity.

I agree and would only like to add one thing.

As you take a look around you, the one thing that you may notice disappearing from society is responsibility.

A great number of people in our society these days have a serious problem with accepting responsibility for what they do.

Whether it's blaming your parents as you grow up (or if your older, for what they did or didn't do as you were growing up), blaming society for creating what you are now, blaming the big companies for not catering to you, blaming an officer for pulling you over when you were clearly speeding, or even blaming the drivers around you for your inability to relax and drive in a polite fashion.

You see it every day in the news as our society slowly turns into a group of litigious people shirking their responsibility for the very actions they are suing someone for.

To apologize to someone when you are in the wrong is a clear sign to the other person involved and those around you that you are a responsible person and you are taking responsibility for your actions.

And while you may be just one person, the following is entirely true:

It is not by our words that people will remember us, but by our actions. Deeds not words.

I hope that this helps.

Love, as always,

Sebastian

Answer 4

Yes it is very important to apologize when something wrong is done, said or intended. It is suggested that one apologize even when it is thought that something wrong was done said or imagined. Its similar to admitting that you're wrong. It's kind of like saying "I'm Sorry" or "I Really Didn't Mean It"... The benefits of apologizing are countless...

1) You will be respected more.
2) You will feel better about yourself.
3) You will help make someone feel better.
4) After awhile, you'll notice that the need to apologize will lessen.

Answer 5

Yes it is a bad attitude to have and its something people will recognize and hold against you. People will respect you more if you are sincere in your apology, all people make mistakes its human nature but it takes a good person to accept that they have done the wrong thing and for them to be able to apologies. If you can not be sincere then don't do it, saying sorry means I know I have done the wrong thing and I wont do it again anything less sincere isn't worth saying....consider that there are enough know it alls and selfish people in the world.

Answer 6

Sometimes it's very important to make amends, for ourselves as well the feelings of others. If we don't we can carry a heavy burden for the rest of our lives. What is so hard about an apology anyway? Try it, it just might help you feel better, especially when you feel you have done wrong. It does not matter if they accept the apology. When you have righted a wrong, it's up to the other person to to accept. Just be sincere when you apologize or it is still left as your own burden.

Answer 7

An apology doesnt cost you a single cent, but of course it cost your pride. But I would say it worth your pride to apologise a word of "sorry" if the fault to any problem is yours. By doing so, you gain a friend but lose an enemy like killing 2 birds with one stone. The other party is also happy and sure ready to forgive you since you so humbly apologise. People like humble people. Take yourself for instance, are you happy if someone in the wrong apologise to you? Simple understanding, isnt it?

Answer 8

Yeah, I think we should usually apologize if we've done something wrong that's of any consequence. I think that people who say I'm sorry for stupid things constantly are hurting themselves by appearing insecure and unsure of themselves, and that this is the wrong attitude. But if you are actually wrong, you should suck up your pride and say you're sorry. It goes a long way for getting others to have respect for you.

Answer 9

Could be a bad attitude, it's more likely that you don't want to admit to others that you were wrong. Try to apologize, you may find it makes you feel better! Good luck!

Answer 10

Yes, this is a bad attitude.
If you want to have friends and people to respect you, you have to apologize when you err.
Part of being a mature adult is admitting when you are wrong and apologizing.

Answer 11

If you put yourself in the other guys place, would you want them to apologize to you? It isn't always easy to apologize, but sometimes it can make someone respect that you are grown up enough to know when you are wrong and able to own up to it. We all have to do it once in a while.