2006-06-11 04:31:09 · 14 answers · asked by hammysammy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Even though it might be tough (due to religious reasons, or just the way you think), it would be best to be as supportive as possible. You may not agree with their lifestyle, but it's a very difficult thing to tell anyone, let alone the people you love the most. If your son or daughter has told you, they must have put a lot of thought into it first. I would say that, if you have a problem with homosexuality, to try to put it past you if possible. You can still love your child, even though it might seem hard at first - they'll always be your baby.
2006-06-11 05:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jamila 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on your view of gay people. I do not think it is right. I am a Christian and believe God made man and woman to fit together not man and man or woman and woman. BUT if it were my child I would let them know that it is the lifestyle choice not them that I did not approve of. I would still allow my child in my home. I would also allow the partner in my home because if not my child may not come either. After God my family is the most important thing. I would restrict certain things. If they came to visit over night they would not sleep in the same room and such. But that would be true of a heterosexual relationship too. I would stand behind my beliefs but not push my child away is he or she did not agree with them. I just have to pray that I taught my children right from wrong and that they will make the right decisions. I know they will make mistakes and I need to be there when they ask for help - not before. I can not stop them from making them. That is how they learn. Homosexuality or anything else. I love my children no matter what they do with their lives. I may not love they do but I will ALWAYS love them and they will ALWAYS know that too. Good luck!
2006-06-11 11:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Toni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what nobody is looking at here is the child....
what sort of person are they?
is this child the angry spiteful type that pulls stunts for attention and shock value? if so, they may just be saying this to get a rise out of the parent
is this child the flighty type that every new love interest is "the one"? if so, the announcement may be fleeting until the shine wears off of this new love interest
is this child categorically indecisive? always trying to find themselves and never really sure of who or what they are? if so, this may just be a new attempt at finding themselves an identity they can call their own (it may not stick)
is this child the good hearted child that reluctantly brings this topic to you for fear of your reaction? do they think things through do they consider other the people in their lives?
most teens that make this announcement, recant within months and chalk it up to an "experimental" phase in their lives.
my advice is to accept the announcement for what it is, but consider you child's personality in the equation. you may have reason to believe that this too will pass. and you may have reason to believe it's true. either way it doesn't change the fact, that's still your baby. it may be hurtful news, it may be happy news (that all depends on you) but that's still your baby telling you. your baby is still entitled to your love and understanding. Don't react! Act wisely and lovingly
2006-06-11 13:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by ladrhiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they could either throw a party because they'll never have to be a grandparent, or they could look at their kid and say, "So?" But disappointment, whining, crying, and yelling is not an option.
My daughter is 14, at this point, I'd be quite happy if I could raise a happy, well-adjusted lesbian. It's the happy and well-adjusted part I'm worried about. As long as she finds someone who will treat her as an equal, with respect and love, I don't care who they are.
2006-06-11 20:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyperson is different. I think their reaction will depend on their values and beliefs. Very religious parents have a very hard time accepting such a fact. Fathers who are 'machos' will just deny the fact. However i think most regular normal parents would demonstrate support even if that brings them somekind of shock.
2006-06-11 12:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by angelj16tx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter its Love after all of the child.
I have two children, if either one of them came to me with it, i would hug their neck and tell them i love them.
Parents should NOT over react!
It gives all US parents a bad rap...lol
:)
2006-06-11 11:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by krayon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept it. I have 2 gay brothers and my family treats them no differently. What can you do? You can't change it. And what I've learned to do is accept the things you can't change.
Anyway, you probably knew from the time they were younger, and didn't want to notice the signs......
2006-06-11 12:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by bebeckles9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already have- thanked god that she doesn't have to go through the **** I did with men all my life, but remind her that women are a pain in the ***. Other than that its no one else's business anyway
2006-06-11 11:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by lilybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acept it,they are still your child,and they are still the same person on the outside.They will only have a little teasing in life,but will be loved by all.
2006-06-11 12:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by rorygilmoregirl93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont accept that is the one reaction they are not hoping for.
the only reason they would tell you this is because they are hoping for acceptance.
2006-06-11 13:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Pauline x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋