What can I do to nicely get a girl out of "my space" in a class I am taking?

Question

The problem is I am taking a class at night. A girl in my same class sits by me to use my book every single night. It seems the professor has told her not to bother getting one of her own so she pulls her desk over to mine every single night. It is getting old. Would it be too rude to sit at another desk? At first I didn't mind and I told her it was fine, but now I am getting tired of having someone so near to me. Her breath is getting increasingly worse. I have given her gum, but she still is too close for comfort.

Answer 1

If you have the guts to sit at another desk, do it.

Answer 2

You shouldn't have to share your book with anyone because A.) you paid for it and B.) the situation is causing you to worry about it, when you've got enough things to worry about like paying attention in class, following along with the lecture, and getting good grades. I think you need to communicate with your professor and not the girl. I'm sure the professor will understand because he too was once a college student and should want to correct a situation that makes a student uncomfortable and in turn might make your grades suffer. Professors are there to help the students as much as possible and by you being quite about the situation, he/she thinks that it is ok with you. Tell your professor what is on your mind and they will do something about it. By the way, if the girl that looks over your book cannot afford to buy her own book, the library always has a copy of them and she can check it out for the semester. Maybe you can tell the professor to suggest that to her. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Sounds as if the professor is significantly at fault for this situation. Talk to him and tell him to tell her to get a book. If that won't work for you, I say just be honest with her re. you're being uncomfortable with the situation. But be sure that you phrase things so that this is on you. Something like: Unfortunately, I've discovered that I'm just not comfortable with someone right next to in class. Be certain to state "someone" rather than "you". That shows the issue is not personal to her. Also, do not mention her breath at all unless you are willing to risk hurting her feelings which we sometimes must do for people's long term good. If you do mention it be certain to give her advice that can help her. Suggest that she go to the website below.

Answer 4

It is not rude to use the book you paid for as you like to.

Show up a little later than you usually would one night and take a seat someplace away from her where there are no available seats near you. Do this for several classes until the course is over or she has made a new "friend".

Don't bother with the gum any longer. She clearly can't take a hint.

Answer 5

Nip it, I would politely move & be up front with her, tell her you cannot concentrate and you need to work alone. Suggest she purchases a new or used book. You shouldnt be expected to share with someone in college.

Talk to your professor, demand to him that you are there to learn and you are being distracted by this person and tell him he needs to arrange a for her book and its not your responsibility to supply her the materials. Good luck!

Answer 6

You might ask the professor to tell her she should share with someone else for awhile. It was pretty tacky of him to tell her she didn't need to buy a book. You might also suggest that, since he started this, he is the one responsible for asking her to change seats. Perhaps he should loan her his book!

Answer 7

I think your best bet would be to try changing desks. Try to arrive after her though, just before class begins so that she doesn't have time to sit beside you again.

Answer 8

I would approach the professor and tell him you would rather work alone and suggest he lends her HIS book.

Answer 9

Simply be direct & tell her how you feel. But be gracious & discreet when you tell her.