i'm 18 and i've only been in one very serious relationship, that lasted for 2 years. she was my first everything. we broke up, and immedietly after, she had sex with her ex boyfriend, and then found this new guy all in a months time. she's told me time and time again about how sorry she is and how great of a guy i am, and how even though it won't be her, i will make some chick really happy. it's been almost a year now, and i think i'm starting to feel better, but everytime i try to be with other chicks, i don't get the same feeling as how i did with her. it feels like i'm coming cold inside to them compared to the way i used to feel around her. is this something that everyone goes through? is it just a matter of time before i feel so GENUINELY happy and great with someone else?
2006-06-11 03:46:41 · 11 answers · asked by John C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks everyone. i have hobbies and i also work full time in a job that i really enjoy now. i'd never get back with her because "screw me once, your fault. screw me twice, my fault" is the way i've grown to look at it. i do still have feelings for her, but i want to move on. i guess it's just a waiting game...thanks everyone for your great answers and personal responses...
2006-06-11 04:12:42 · update #1
There is a possiblity that the fact you don't feel the same way with new girls is simply because the first girl was just that--your first girl. I dated four girls in my life, and didn't find the right one until a couple years ago. At first, all the girls I dated gave me the same feeling, but it went away, and that was ultimately why the first three relationships didn't work out. Every time we broke up, I was worried that I wouldn't find a girl like them again, because they were all very wonderful people. I would go a few months before I found someone else that made me feel the way they did. But it may take a few tries, like in my case, where it took four tries to find the right girl. The reason you may feel different about your first girl is just because she was the first one you knew, so that is what you are used to. The best thing I can say is wait it out, until you find the person that you realize you could spend a lot of time (i.e. a lifetime) with. It just takes time and a lot of different people until you find the one. Hope this helps somewhat!
2006-06-11 03:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by phido06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say from experience that this is normal for you right now. Losing some one you loved and were use to being with has to take lots of time getting over. Its hard to be with another and truley feel at ease with a new person. I Know it will get better soon , just try to not harden your self so that you stop real love from your life. Its there my friend and you will find it. You sound like a nice person.
2006-06-11 03:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Windwispers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. I'm just going to be truthful, she played you. Nobody should ever have to go through what you are going through, but girls are sneaky these days. All you can do is realize why you broke up, accept it and move on. You'll find someone who will stay with you and appreciate you. It's just a matter of time. Good Luck
2006-06-11 03:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must forget about her! Look how she treated you. Trust me I've been there. You'll never be able to trust her again. I met a great woman who I can't get enough of. I don't even want to think of going back to her... ever! She calls every now and again just to see if I.m available. Trying to cheat on her husband. I'll talk just to be freindly and to know how happy I am.
Good Luck
2006-06-11 03:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look back...
go to a mall or some nice place to treat yourself to a meal....then go to the library....look up some interesting things you thought about lately.
get a hobby..do you draw? like to know how to do Martial Arts? whatever you have always wanted to do this is the time to start doing them.
relationships can form later get yourself a life first..take care
2006-06-11 03:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Linnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something everyone goes through, trust me. Be patient with yourself. Someone will come along and be your soul mate. Don't try too hard, let it happen, and it will.
2006-06-11 03:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!
Its o.k. Everyone goes through that. Its your first love. Nobody gets over their first love. If you want her back, maybe you should. Like they say.....People usaully marry their first love,....after going back to them. Feel better!
2006-06-11 03:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... you answered your own question... all you need is time for you to genuinely forget about the past... time heals all kinds of wounds... and that will come to you soon... just be patient and persevere the pain... everything will be all right
2006-06-11 03:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by boyang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be happy again it just takes time could take alot of time even years but it will happen just hold in there
2006-06-11 03:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you loved her alot and you dont want to see or her talk about her sex life with another guy so you feel bad!
2006-06-11 03:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Morgan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋