If you were a parent of identical twins, would you raise them together? Make them wear the same clothes?

Question

Would you let one go to a party if the other twin wasn't invited? Why? Why not?

Answer 1

I am not a parent of identical twins, however I am a twin. My sister and I had the same problem when we were kids and whenever one of us went to a party by ourself, our parents would take the other one of us out and do something with us so we didnt feel left out. In the end, it worked out for both of us and we were allowed to have our own identities. Your twins need a best friend beside each other.

Answer 2

I would dress them separately and give them their own sense of individuality, but the party invitation issue is a little more tricky. First of all, I think it's good when twins are put into separate classes in school, but if they are in the same class and only one gets an invitation to a party, I'm not sure I would let them go...because it would be extremely rude on the part of the inviting parent to exclude the other twin. But if they have separate sets of friends and go to parties apart from each other, then I don't see a problem with that.

Answer 3

If I was a parent with identical twins yes i would raise them together. That would not be fair to separate your kids because they are twins. Yes I would dress them alike. I would just make there outfits a differant color to tell who is who. Or i would write there name on there close to tell who is who.

Yes i would let one twin go to a party if the other twin was not invited. just because one twin was not invited that don't mean the other can not go. Maybe they have there own friends. just so happened one of the twin friends had the party and just invited her. so yes i would just let one twin go to a party.

Answer 4

As a twin myself, I was not forced to wear the same clothes. I did on occasion when I was younger (cute, whole nine yards), and we went to the same parties (generally we were both invited but sometimes a person forgot and we both went anyways).

But twins are two different people. If you try put them together, they'll split and dislike one another. Case in point: Mother of two twin girls (in my school) put them together, dressed, etc. Perfect as young kids, once they were teenagers they hated each other and did everything complete opposite.

Myself? Well, my family respected that my identical twin and I were two different people. As a result, we have our different interests and same (we both love video games). He was (and is) probably the person I know the most and the person I confide in the most. We are very close still.

You can do it while they are young, but you have to respect the fact that twins are two different people, even if they look the same. I'm glad that my parents did.

Answer 5

If I were a parent of twins I would dress them as twins in their younger days while making them know that they're individuals at the same time. As they got older I would slowly start dressing them in different colors things like that. As for parties if one wasn't invited to a party I wouldn't make a big deal about it kind of thing, because most likely the child who invited one of my twins is friends with my 1 twin and isn't really friends with my other twin. On the other hand, if both my twins spoke with that child and are both friends with that child and the child only invited 1 of my twins I wouldn't let my 1 twin go to the party.

Answer 6

No i wouldn't have them wear the same cloth,s. Yes of course i would raise them together. I wouldn't dress them alike because there are not alike in there personalities. I also wouldn't do it because it draws to much attention from the world , and i think the twins get bad habits and ways about them , from people starring , or always commenting on them. So many people commenting on them after awhile stops them from being them self's , they are always compared to each other, i would want them to grow and be there own person, not stamped as that's the good twin the pretty twin and that's the bad twin ,,, and that almost always happens, and leaves a bad scar on there heart.Let them grow as 2 different children. Don't compare let them grow to be them self,s not ONE OF THE TWINS.

Answer 7

I think it is important to let them know they are individuals. If they want to wear the same clothing that is fine. Of course you raise them together. It is sad when one is invited to a party and the other isn't. If this happens, make a big deal about the one not invited getting to spend time alone with mom. Twins have a special bond you don't want to break, but they also need to know they each have their own " gifts" that make them special.

Answer 8

I am the mother of fraternal twin girls. We named them names that are not rhyming or starting with the same letter. We dress them different and they are different people. Some twins may like to be treated the same, but not all. They may develop their own friends. People have this stereotype with twins - they want them to be the same. Mine look very much alike, but if you spend time with them you will see their differences in the face, but especially their personalities. Everyone wants twins (especially girls) to be the next Olsen twins - no one respects their individuality. It's really sad. Just because they were born at the same time doesn't mean they are the same person.

Answer 9

I am a parent of twin 15 yr old girls that are fraternal. they are complete opposites. when they were little I some times dressed them alike but didn't like to, so I was pretty glad that they weren't identical. also, they did go everywhere together till they were about 13. now they have different friends and fight over who's friend it really is. I always thought that they should have there own identity, but all mine do is fight over every thing so I now try to have the same of everything for them.

Answer 10

You are so lucky! I always wanted twins or triplets!

I wouldn't have them wear the same clothes
if they are old enough to look at clothes and pick their own from a young age it would be better than for the parent to force twin stuff on them...
no i would let them choose their own colors and styles..sometimes they may choose identical things but it would be good for them to do their own thing...