family members ? Is it not better to nip the evil in the bud by teaching her a lesson and doing a kind of social byecot with her by other family members?.
2006-06-11 03:38:42 · 12 answers · asked by mann54 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not any better of you do "socially boycott" her. Some people have issues, the best thing you can do, even though it's hard, is just be a nice person, and forget it. Don't take their snide remarks personal, and go on with your life.
2006-06-11 03:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by paj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone has a "bullying" or intimidating personality resulting in "evil behaviours", being passive aggressive (socially boycotting without an explanation) will not be a clear enough message. The aggressor will think that they have silenced any resistance. It is more proactive (and confidence building) to stand up to the bad behaviours, identify them, acknowledge them, clearly state why they are not to be tolerated and then discuss/explain consequences that will occur if the bad behaviour continues. It is never a good idea to observe bad behaviours and not do anything about it - by silently watching you are showing the aggressor that their behaviour is accepted through your silence. Having integrity and standing up for what your value base is (whatever that may be) is always a better approach then just turning a blind eye whether it's a family member, a friend, a co-worker or just an acquaintance.
2006-06-18 00:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by quaizar_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a family it's important to correct immoral acts especially the little things. Punishment is rarely necessary and often leads to more problems.
Calling this person "evil" suggests that certain acts in the past have not been delta with properly.
Few people are born "evil". people behave in evil manners because of the way they view the world. If parents do not explain why certain actions are wrong and give them a sense that other people are important.
Sometimes a parent will punish a child too aggressively causing "opposite defiance disorder". Someone with this condition dose the opposite of what they are told, because they view others as enemies.
Some one should address the causes of this behavior. Ask this person why they treat others in this manner? Is it jealousy? Is it anger? Dose this person want more attention?
Explain how this behavior is effecting their lives, and show concern for the damage the behavior is doing to them and others.
Reward proper behavior with compliments or kind actions.
2006-06-11 12:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by marytormeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently going through that right now in my family. Others have decided to work around her moods and take the abuse. This family member is very verbally abusive one minute and extremely nice the next minute. It is very tough being around her. I made a conscious decision not to deal with her at all. I think a social boycott should be done..so the person can realize how ugly her behavior is because the more it is tolerated the more she thinks are behavior is okay. Good luck
2006-06-11 10:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy shea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, the thing is.. the evil ones are usually the still growing up children and babies. So, I can't do much about that. :P Lol :D
But then again, if they're the same age, it might be possible to do so.
Older people? Yeah, HOW exactly am I going to do that if they're darn scary?
Conclusion? Subtlety works best. |E
2006-06-11 10:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and let them know that you do not approve of the behavior, not them.
They must learn to behave in a socially acceptable way if they are to be successful in life,
2006-06-11 10:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by kev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think it is better if you were to speak upon it because from what i learned with my family, when you don't say anything about something they are doing then they act as if it is alright
2006-06-11 10:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her alone, ask her what she wants from you , if there are any problems she needs help with, and try talking to her in a friendly nice way.
If she doesn't try to change, warn her and expose her to the family.
Maybe she will stop.Who knows?
Good luck ;D
2006-06-11 10:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Pistaccio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would pull the person aside and discuss the issues with them ,if they do not care about their actions,then tell them you will expose them.give them a warning!!tell them that every thing has a consequence.
2006-06-11 10:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by WHAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hold her accoutable for her misdeeds
2006-06-11 10:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by longhunter17692002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋