My wife won't do as I say. Can I tell her that she will go to hell if she doesn't start showing me respect?

Question

Genesis 2
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

1 Corinthians
11:8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
11:9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

I think I'm going to divorce my wife and ask Jen (first answer below) to marry me!!!

Answer 1

She should be in subjection if and I say if you are being a God fearing husband to her,you are supposed to love her as yourself, you know.If you are doing what the Lord commands you to do you should let her know that she is hindering prayers and that you can't be blessed with disobedience.Read the 3rd chapter of 1 Peter to her. I really hope you are sincere with this question because if you are one of these people just asking to slander the children of God or mock God, then God have mercy on you.

Answer 2

There is a level of respect required for someone to have a mindset of obedience. Also, your wife is not your child, meaning she doesn't think like a child or see you through a child's eyes. Rather she sees what you see, the roles of responsibility in a marriage that's required by "both" parties.

Being the man you are suppose to be the authority of leadership in your household, but is your "leadership" displayed only when you're trying to tell your wife what to do? Also, are you paying the cost to be the boss or does your wife "have to" work outside the home to help you make ends meet? If the answer is yes, then your wife is doing more then you, i.e. taking care of the house and kids (if any) while helping you support the family. If she's not obeying you it may be because she doesn't see you the way you expect. Especially if she's not operating in the role she's suppose to because she's holding up too much of your end.

Answer 3

Please don't take this as bashing, but as someone hoping to help your relationship with your wife.

1st.) Have you ever considered that the problem of a submisive wife is not solely her fault, but also yours. First of all, do you ever listen to your wife. If not BIG MISTAKE. She has thoughts feelings and ideas that are just as valid as yours. After all she did not become a complete person by marrying you. She was one already. And your were one too, long before you married her.

2nd.) In any family situation, yes women are under the man's authority. However, the man is required to protect, care for, and cherish her. Are you doing this?

3rd.) Are you looking at Christ as the example of how a husband should treat his wife? If you noticed, he washed the feet of the disciples.

4th.) Have you ever placed yourself in her position? Do you know what her schedule is like? Is she a stay-at-home mom, or a woman with a 9-to-5 job. She is likely to have many demands on her, just as much as you.

5th.) If you look at verse 18 of Genesis 2, it says that it was not good for man to be alone, and that was why women were created. "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." In other words, God wanted man to have a companion that would help him. The man is the captain, and the woman is the co-captain in a family. Any GOOD captain listens and works with his co-captain.

6th.) Visited Prestonwood Baptist in Dallas today. The message was on communication. One of the things the pastor mentioned was never threaten. The only thing this does is to destroy a marriage. Telling someone they are going to Hell because they are not being submissive to their husband, is a pure out right threat, and not a truth. Wives go to Hell if the do not accept Jesus as their saviour, just the same as the husband.

7th.) Finally, be careful that what you are feeling has nothing to do with pride. It almost sounds like you are being a proudful husband, and not a humble one.

Answer 4

Being female I naturally bristle at this, sorry, can't help myself. And like someone else mentioned, the bible also goes into ways you are to honor your wife as well. Doing what you say is not necessarily the only way she should 'show you respect', and I don't really think telling her she's going to hell is going to make anything better.
Looking at all your questions I sense you are finding bible verses to support issues you're not sure about, and let me gently remind you the bible is subject to much interpretation and debate.
If you can learn to let go of some of the uncertainty you're stressing over and go 'back to the basics' you'll be better off. Most humans have a fundamental knowledge of what is right vs. what is wrong, whether they are religious or not. Know in your heart what is right, and stick with it...hopefully you'll be fine...take care.

Answer 5

I suggest that you work on having a MUTUALLY respectful and loving relationship with your wife and give thanks to God each and everyday that she has consented to be your partner and pray that she doesn't leave you when she gets sick of being treated like an animal or an object that you own.

I suspect that you are picking out the verses in the Bible that suit your own desires and are not sincerely following all of the passages in the Bible which refer to a relationship between man and wife. I suggest that you get some spiritual counselling on the matter from your pastor or spiritual leader, someone who can be objective while still respecting your spiritual beliefs.

I think you will come to find that by treating your wife with love and respect, she will be more likely to be cooperative and act as a partner in your relationship.

Answer 6

Interesting concept but actually no where in the Bible does it say that Adam woke up from his deep sleep, so I guess the Lord knew best and kept him sleeping infinitely knowling man was just the prototype for his perfect creation and that is woman

Answer 7

In a very literal sense, wives are to submit to their husbands in ALL things. Paul is fairly clear on this matter in his letter to the Ephesians.

Ephesians 5:23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior.

24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.

However, this is contingent on a measure of godliness from the husband who is bestowed with the privilege of such unconditional surrender

Paul is fairly clear on this matter in his letter to the Ephesians.

Ephesians 5:25 And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her

26 to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's word.*

27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.

Many men neglect to behave in this fashion yet they expect the sort of “submission” that normally flows from such an interaction. This does not excuse the behavior; but, it does explain the root of the problem. An unsaved person has absolutely no idea what this means and no amount of discussion about it will lead to anything positive until the persons mind is regenerated by the process of salvation.

Answer 8

It sounds like you skipped all the parts that speak about the man loving and respecting his wife. Also the laws and rules written down in the Bible refer to cultures and traditions that were alive many centuries ago. We no longer live in this type of world. Wake up, fella.

Answer 9

Jen has said the truth, but remember, Eve was created from a rib, not a foot. She is Your HELP meet, not your slave. Show her respect, because she deserves it , if for nothing else , just for being married to you.

Answer 10

You are misreading God's words. Your wife is not for you to command to do anything. Only God has that right. And no He will not condemn her to hell for not showing you respect.

Why don't you try showing her some respect. You are not for sure. God did not intend for you to be a master to your wife. You are sinning by trying to do this. God is the master.

He commanded you to love and honor her. Not command her to do what you want or think what you think.

Get down on your knee's and pray for God to show you the true meaning of his words! And to forgive you for blindly trying to do what only He is supposed to do!