my boyfreind of 6 years has being seeing my best freind for 2 years & his pregnant with his baby but he says she means nothing & wants to make a go with me i love him so much but also hate him but how can i let him abandon his child ?
2006-06-11 02:55:57 · 30 answers · asked by tracy b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we both made a pact to remain virgins till we got married thats what hurt the most as i remaind true
2006-06-11 03:05:03 · update #1
Your boyfriend is an ***. If any other guy had gotten your best friend pregnant and then said she didn't mean anything to him, how would you feel about him? And what kind of best friend does that sort of thing to you?
You are much better off without them both. Move on, and choose better friends next time.
2006-06-11 02:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide.
I can understand that you can love someone so much that you can forgive them almost anything. However this person has betrayed your trust and he is still lying to you, I cannot believe that he has been involved with your friend for two years and that she means nothing to him. If you were to stay together do you think you will be able to trust him again? If not then there is little chance that your relationship will last long anyway.
I also think that you need to think about your pact to remain a virgin. Was this really a joint agreement entered into willingly by both parties or is it something that you believe in and that your partner agreed to, to remain with you?
Six years is a long time to be together without sex. Abstinence is fine if it is a genuine choice. However there is also nothing wrong with sex before marriage, particularly if it is in a long term loving relationship. I hate to say it but it may well be your commitment to remain a virgin that caused your boyfriend to stray. This by no means absolves your boyfriend of his guilt. If he was not willing to abstain then he should have discussed his feelings with you openly and if you had not been able to reach an agreement he should have split up from you before starting his relationship with your friend.
As far as abandoning his child is concerned that is your boyfriends responsibility. As he is trying to get back with you it is likely that he has already made that decision. Even if you reject him now will your friend want him back knowing she is his second choice?
2006-06-11 12:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by John H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not abandoning his child he will still be there for it but u need to think if this went on for 2 years how many other times did this happen???? Was he honest to you at first or did he deny it and how long ago did u find out when she found out she was pregnant???? I guess it is an effort for him to admit it but be careful because 6 years is a long time to waist with a guy and if he has cheated once he is apt to do it again.....Be careful and take it slow if you decide to......Keep me posted.......Good Luck...
2006-06-11 10:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been seeing your best friend for 2 years???
And you haven't gotten the message yet??
Please wake us and "smell the roses". This is not a good relationship.
No, don't forgive him, and move him.
A good relationship requires love, caring, trust, compromise, and wanting the other to be happy. Does he meet all these requirements?
After 29 yrs of marriage, I can say that you are "fighting" a losing battle with your bf.
Breaking up is hard to do, but you can, and you will find someone who respects you......he doesn't. Best of luck.
2006-06-11 10:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by fredg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend hasnt been true to you or your so called best friend. Best friends dont steal the others boyfriend. I think you should try to forget about him .. The hurt and the feelings will be there but you have to let it go. If she is going to keep the baby its his responsibilty to help raise it. Tell him you dont want him anymore after he has cheated on you . Once they cheat they always cheat. There are other guys out there so keep looking. Chin up and good luck.
2006-06-11 10:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg
id say give your relationship another try see how it goes as you have been together for a long time and im sure its very hard to let go, also dont let him abandon his child, its his and if you are both to make it work you should accept the child onto your life
as for your friend, give her a good beating after she has popped the child, how can she call herself your friend, what a b***h
2006-06-11 10:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by km 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont take him back he has betrayed you and now is running away from his child will he do the same to you as an when you want a child?
Let them have each other and get on with your life
2006-06-11 10:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGIVE HIM, Your boyfriend was just trying to prove to himself that you are the best one for him before he makes that final commitment to you, LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE you will have a ready made family "" no stretch marks" and a man who is ready to settle down JUST DONT LET HIM GET NEAR TO YOUR NEXT BEST FRIEND. Why do you woman get so bitter AS US CHICKEN FARMERS SAY " A STANDING C-CK HAS NO CONSCIENCE.
2006-06-11 10:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forgive him! If you guys ever went another step in your relationship, what makes you think we won't do that to you in the future?
Believe me, he's not being truthful. I have a friend who's gf was flirting with other guys..so he broke up with her. That night she called him and said, "I love you" and they get back together. The next day, he caught her making out with another guy! His heart was broken so bad....don't let that happen to you.
2006-06-11 10:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it will be hard to shake him at first. But people like that are best off left alone.
THe first 2-3 months of breaking up is hard, but you're a girl, and you should be able to find another man rather easy.
2006-06-11 09:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by asu_mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋