I love her dearly and hope someone out there can help me.I tried my best to talk to her and be patience but she seems to live in her own world.eg.she just ignores me when it comes to her duties and she lies nearly about everything.She doesn't like to shower/wash hair/flush the toilet after use and she misbehaves in public.I recently brought her on holiday and she embarassed me in public.I don't understand why and would really appreciate any advice.I don't spoil her and she reads the bible every night.
2006-06-11 01:50:03 · 12 answers · asked by Firefly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1) check yourself and your husband (I am assuming you are married). Do either of you have the same problems? Can you please answer us...
2) There was a great audio tape by Dr Dobson "Dare to Discipline". http://www.family.org
2006-06-12 12:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a father of 5 and from my experience you have to have make sure kids know you are the boss. You have to be a mom or a dad and not a friend. Kids need to know what limits are and what happens if they go past those limits. You will have to do some things you might not want to but hey You're the Parent. With my kids most of the time I could just give them a look and they would know better. I only spank after trying other things or if they needed immediate attitude changing. Each kids was different. One sonny would keep pushing until I whooped his a**. Another sonny hated to be grounded. My daughter hated the corner. If they have something important to them taken away they will usually respond.
2006-06-11 12:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have tried talking to and being patient with her ya say? Ever tried busting her *** when she acts up? I can appreciate parents trying to talk to and reason with their children, however sometimes you have to be the adult and MAKE the child mind. Reading the bible isn't going to automatically make her a good person and make her behave. What forms of discipline do you use? Apparently she doesn't realize that YOU are the authority in the house. Have you shown her this or have you always reasoned with her? Start taking things away from her. She needs to know there are repercussions for her actions. If you truly feel her behavior is beyond anything you can control or get a handle on, seek professional help. It isn't going to get any easier the older she gets.
2006-06-11 09:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is let her know it cannot go on like it has been. You are the parent and must be respected and obeyed. Her continued disrespect will result in the loss of privileges. She may be reading the bible but has not been paying attention to honoring they father and mother. It could be that you are a single parent and she resents the absence of a male image in her life. If you are married then the father has not been doing his duty. Take away her TV time or toys if she does wrong but let her know why it is being done. If you do not get control now there will be really tough times ahead.
2006-06-11 11:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that, unfortunately, children are starting to disobey and rebel at earlier and earlier ages. Their peers may have a lot to do with it.
Sometimes, though, these children have been put through something that they are afraid to tell their parents--so it comes out in misbehavior.
One of my children read the Bible every day, too, but that didn't stop that child from being rude and disrespectful.
I hope you can get to the root of why your child is acting this way, and wish you good luck in doing so.
2006-06-11 08:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your daughter is very troubled about something. You need to seek counseling with your daughter. For some reason, she is taking something out on either you or herself.
2006-06-11 08:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by wldaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know its time for her to talk to you and if she wont then take her to someone she can talk to or thru...I agree with most of whats said here,she has an underlying problem and is reacting to it thru behavior,obviously,the solution is up to you..Good luck!
2006-06-11 09:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and try talking to her and also try to ground her and if that dont do any good then u dont have much choice but lean her over your knee and give her a good spanking and sit her in a chair until she comes to her senses.
2006-06-11 14:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just so you know spanking your child does no good as i no from experience spend more family time with her and do things together like go to the park ect.
2006-06-11 09:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by divalysha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are the one who made her like that on how u treat her the only way u can treat this is to take her to the sykyotrist
2006-06-11 10:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋