My ex wife is from a small town in rural arkansas and a triditioal southern baptist. My daughter is 10 and she is not accustomed to seeing an interacial couple. My knew girlfriend has a daughter who is marriaed to a wonderful black man. he treats her well and is a proffesional accountant. How should I approach this situation with my daughter. I think my ex will try and use this against me and my vistation.
I have more liberal values and as long as he treats her well I don't have a problem with it. howeverI would prefer for my daughters to stay with in their own race. but If not my love for them will not change.....
2006-06-11 01:36:04 · 9 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't make this a big issue..I'm sure by now your daughter is aware people come in all shapes and sizes.Unless you raised her to be a racist then this is something at her young age she can accept and process.
2006-06-11 01:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by rachellynn200 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is there to explain? That is what the world is becoming. I am Korean and adopted into an upper class white family, in a rich, white town. Not neighborhood, but the whole town was white doctors, lawyers, etc. I grew up not even knowing the difference. I am now, at the age of 21, realizing racism. Not against me, but in general. I am in the military and I deal with all sorts of races everywhere I go.
2006-06-18 05:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by chica123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must say... when I read your question I was a bit offended... but I guess I can understand where you are coming from... but what u can teach your daughter is to not see colour but to love unconditionally... Tell her that we were all wonderfully made... some of us are different but at the end of the day we are all people... Love does not see colour, only character. If your ex-wife is a mature adult she will know this... no court will take any offense against you for your "girlfriend's- daughter's"- decision on who to marry...especially when their only offense is their colour and this is NO OFFENSE AT ALL. Stay open-minded just as you are- its an excellent quality to have and your daughter will appreciate this.
2006-06-11 14:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rye Rye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your daughter that the color of ones skin doesn't dictate who they fall in love with. They are still a person on the inside who deserve to be treated with respect. She will grow up to form her own opinions on what is acceptable. If she sees you as being tolerant of others she will possibly do the same. And as for your ex wife I don't think that she can use who your girlfriends son in law against you.
2006-06-11 10:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you would explain two people of the same race married. Or two people with the same sex, or two people of different sex's.
Let her know that its normal, just like every other marriage, its two people who love each other very much deciding to share their lives with one another. And your ex, he cant use that against you in a court of law, if he tries it will go against him.
2006-06-11 08:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Karmically Screwed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up unless your daughter does. It may not even be an issue to her. How can this be used against you?
2006-06-11 09:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by donnabbb43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are not born racist...they become that way...you're obviously open minded about it...so talk to her like you would to any human being...
anybody who tried to use race issues in visitation disputes needs to have their head read anyway...and a judge would see that
2006-06-11 08:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by getafix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why say anything,let the child be herself,we aren't born to hate,we are taught.
2006-06-18 07:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by fairie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't approach it at all unless your daughter asks questions.
If she asks, answer and tell her that no one looks exatly alike and we don't choose our partners by looks but by their heart.
2006-06-11 08:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋