There this guy i have feelings for but i'm not sure how he feels about me cuz hes good 4 playin games . When we're together we have so much fun. One day we sat and talked for 5 hours straight and he told me that i was lucky and it must be something that made him stay there that long. We talk on the phone just about about every night and he said i was the first girl he went shopping with. But i heard him tell one of his friends that "can't no azz hold him down" that made me think that he's a playa or something and i'm not the only girl he chills with. He gets mad when i look at another guy or say someone else is cute, if i don't call him when i get home, etc. but he feel as if he can say or do anything he wants without me gettin upset. There have been plenty of times when we're together and his phone will ring and he'll jus ignore it and tell me its his mama or his sister and he expects me to believe him. I really have fellings for him, but i wonder if his just playin games.
2006-06-10 23:01:38 · 9 answers · asked by MzLeeLee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems that you two have become close and it would definatly be best to confront him about these things and see what he has to say about it. Its hard giving advice when I dont know you but I get the impression you are quite young. Guys say stupid **** infront of their mates becase we're idiots, he may not actualy mean what he said but was just trying to look cool infront of his home boys.
If he did mean it & is seeing other girls then kick that loser to the curb. Nip it in the bud now though before your feelings for him get stronger or you will end up getting hurt.
2006-06-10 23:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all relationships are built on trust. however if he does not pull his phone out when he tells you that it is his mom or sis then he somehow knows when they call. the way it sounds to me is he is not playing you. if he was he would lighten up a bit. if he cant trust you when you say that another guy is cute then he might not trust you enough. if someone doesnt trust their boyfriend or girlfriend enough to say that someone else is cute then it could be a sign that they are very posessive and no one wants to deal with that unless they are a wierdo. if he is not playin you then he is trying to control your life and no guy is worth the trouble that will bring. just remember that how he treats his "mama" is how he will treat you. if he doesnt answer the phone when "she" calls (unless she knows that you are on a veratible 'date') then he should at tell her "hi i'll call you back." so if treats his "mama" that badly then if you get with him he will treat you like that. is that how you want your life to be for awhile? if it is then dont come cryin when he treats you like that. because he will.
2006-06-11 06:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by Krg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With what you have described, it's best to leave him alone. Obviously, this guy is an egomaniac. Imagine, he had the guts to say that you're lucky coz he stayed with you for 5 hours!!? Sure, he must have been smitten by you, but believe it, he's just a playa and he's gonna hurt you again and again. Be careful!
2006-06-11 06:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by judge_d'red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He falls under the catergory of "want's his cake and eat it too". He wants the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. Of course he can have other women, but you better not think about another man. I do hope you don't settle for him without him commiting to you. Why can't you look at other men? He isn't your boyfriend AND you are single, right? In a way, you are allowing him to control you and you don't even realize it. My final advice, BE CAREFUL with this one...his minor signs of possession may turn into something worse! Take care!
2006-06-11 06:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by rennydapooh78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew how old the guy is. He is probably a game player even if it isn't intentional. He's a confused guy who doesn't want to be tied down, yet wants all the girls to like him and nobody else. I'd concentrate on someone else and just be a friend to him.
2006-06-11 06:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by SonoranAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this guy is the one who is lucky not you
and he needs to grow up fast
he is playing you methinks but some guys do the 'bravado thing' in front of their friends which isn't necessarily how he really feels.
give him another couple of weeks and hang onto your heart as he isn't ready necessarily to give you the commitment that you are looking for.
it could be that he doesn't like feeling vulnerable in being close to one lady emotionally but the warning sign is that he doesn't want to give you the same freedoms that he expects you to give to him. i would focus on that for now and see if it improves or not before deciding the future of your relationship
2006-06-11 06:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you make friends with someone who really cares for you. I feel you are pretty and everything to turn men on.
2006-06-11 06:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will say anything around their friends. don't hold that against him. but he does sound like a jerk. you should get to know him better. before you decide.
2006-06-11 06:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. BIG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's playing games hun
2006-06-11 06:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by smoochy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋