why can't stepmothers mind their own business?

Answer 1

Mine was so jealous of my standard of living, that she sabotaged my marriage. I don't know really. Maybe it's because they will always be an outsider that they feel the need to be part of evrything that's going on whether they're welcome or not.

Answer 2

Actually any mother who minds her own business, can never be called a good mother.

You are lucky to have a stepmother, who cares so much about you, and wants to be involved in your life and wishes to make sure you are alright.

Give her a chance, remove the 'step' and think of her as a mother, and maybe you'll find the answer yourself.

Answer 3

Stepmothers get a very hard time form their partners children.
They have to find a balance between being a friend & being a parent. This can be very difficult especially if the kids blame her for splitting their parents (which may or may not be true).
If they are too hard on the kids they are despised for sticking their noses in & interfering.
If they are soft on the kids then they are accused of not caring.
Give her a break & try to think about things from her point of view for a change.

Answer 4

Sadly you are her business and she is a part of your family. Feuds and resentment can last a life time and this will only make your life worse. Find out why you two cant get on. If this can not happen then try to find a way to giving yourself space in both your lives. Don't give her a reason to cause you stress and if she carries on then talk to your parent as they should see the effort you are making. Step parent s are a hard group to be in and live with and maybe you two will never get on. All you can do to try to improve your life and when old enough or independent you can choose never to see her. She may be jealous of you as your living proof that your father once loved Simonne else and that he has love for you. Good luck i wish you well.

Answer 5

They want to be accepted by the children . This goes for stepdads and stepmothers. They just want to be included in the family and when the children dont accept them this pushes them away and it causes friction between the spouses and makes her feel so alone. They want to be there for the children through good and bad and let them know that they have someone to lean on. No a step parent can never take the place of your bilogical parents but they sure can be there for you when you need them the most.

Answer 6

As any mother, stepmothers care for you.Maybe she is attempting to nurture you. Maybe not.
There were times when my children were at home when I had no choice. Professionals told me to do so. I did only to keep them from making mistakes that could put them in prison for the rest of their lives. If I had not looked through their room to search for illegal contraband, I would not have been a good mother. Love is there but cannot be seen.

Answer 7

They would then not be step mothers if they got into thier own business fulltime. Even this question would not have come. Some things not all happen for a purpose and reason, for such times as they do happen. Believe me thats the way the world has been sustained.

Answer 8

because they wanted to act like you own mom... trying to be someone else that they can never be... maybe they just trying to make you feel that everything is normal around the house but since she is not your mom and the idea that stepmothers are evil was planted to your head, you always see the negative side of it... but really, most of the step mom's are pain in the ***... just bear with them... try to get good grades at school so that when you enter collage, you'll never see her again... be cool to your dad... fathers love their children more than their wives! take care!

Answer 9

I suspect whatever you are talking about IS her business. It is probably occurring in her home so I would think she has a say. Try to get along... it WILL get better.

Answer 10

It seems that they have a life too and sometimes the step kids interfere with it

Good Luck and God Bless!!