I am a middle aged single mom to a 3 year old boy, never been married!
I heard that single moms are easy prey to abusive men..Is this true?:(
2006-06-10 18:09:18 · 5 answers · asked by happybeanstalk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must be patient and wait for the right one to come along. Don't be hasty. Don't let the children meet them until you have been dating a couple months. The first thing I do is check out the sexual offenders web site that my state has. If yours has a site that posts offenders on it, then check it out before you even go out. Always remember, your children come first.
I don't think single moms are easy prey to abusive men. If an abusive man is single, he will obviously date a single woman. If the single woman is a mom, then she will get abused. Therefore the stereotype. Perhaps single mom's are more vulnerable because they feel they can't survive without a man. I know that I have been single for over 11 years and trust me, I know I can survive just fine without a man. And obviously you can, too :-)
Single mom's just have to go slow and be cautious. They are looking out for more than just themselves, they are looking out for their children as well. Their children need them and if they make the mistake of dating the wrong guy then their children could become orphans or go to the ex-spouse (who isn't always the best choice for a parent). I would rather not date, ever, then take a chance because I feel desperate and date the wrong person. At that point it might be too late.
2006-06-14 15:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Generally, single moms aren't really prey for guys unless they advertise it when they are out dating. No one wears a shirt that says, "Hey, I am a Single Mom!"
There will always been men who think that single moms are desperate and will try to use that as a way to increase the chances of sex, but I would hope the majority of men are good.
You should look into joining singles groups at local churches or civic organizations. This will enhance your chances of finding someone of quality that may be in a similar situation.
2006-06-11 01:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by johnathanleslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should ask.. My cousin is having the same problem and I keep telling her to try online dating services such as harmony or other reputable ones. You may also want to try going to various work functions, networking groups. AND always meet guys in public and don't meet strangers at your house.. There are many WACKOS out there looking to take advantage of single moms. Oh, and no sleeping with them either.. You want to set a positive example to your kids that being single parents today is ok and there is true life after marriage.. Don't get discouraged.
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2006-06-11 01:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by j_darpino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I don't know the answer to your question. Make sure the guy that you date has character and is willing to love your son as if he is one of his own.
2006-06-11 01:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by deeds31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not!! Just be aware of the person you may be interested in.
2006-06-11 01:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ron T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋