I am currently 20 years old but living the life and body of a 24 year old. I feel left out and have a hard time finding that right group of people to fit in with. All the people my age go out drinking, partying and have sex. I stay home, work and occassionally go out now and than. I feel school and work are more important. Am I a bad person for choosing this rather than drinking and having sex. I mean it like everyone my age I know has had sex and don't work. I want to fit in so I see it as if I need to drink and have sex to fit in with others.
2006-06-10 18:08:32 · 12 answers · asked by jacoboctober11 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's funny that you think 24 is older and more mature. there is nothing wrong with not partying and having sex all the time, that doesn't mean you're more mature, it just means you work differently than your peers. Hang out with older people if you need to, or stop worrying so much about it and go to the parties and meet people anyways. Life is too short to worry so much about fitting in.
2006-06-10 18:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by Beccawho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing i would say is NO u are not a bad person if u prefer staying at home over partying and having drinks an sex.......i know how u feel.....i had the same thing.....but now i am in my early 20's and i think whatever hard choices i made in my teens and whatever choice i am making right now will reflect and better my future......i have everything....a bachelors, great life....great friends...an awesome job that no body in my age would have......i dont need to get drunk and have sex to have fun...actually watching ppl when they get drunk and act all funny....is fun........i know what u mean that sometimes u feel u cant fit in the society.....but u know what......it take some guts....to be mature and be focussesd......anybody can drink, have sex and quit school or coll.......staying home and relaxign is not bad.......when ppl go out and become all crazy is when they dotn find comfort at home......but apparently we do......dotn take me wrong ppl......i do party and drink when its necessary.....when i enjoy doing it.....not all the time just for the heck of doing it.....or like a fad.....coz everybody is doing it.......well i dotn know if u got anythng i said but thats what i feel.....=) hope that cheers u up a little.....
2006-06-10 18:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about anything. Everything will come to you in its own time and at its own accord.
I'm sorry you have to go through this... I can only imagine that sometimes it feels like you want to fit in and enjoy the life everyone has and do this and that and the other thing. It does sound like a lot of fun and you'll be able to see a lot of things in life and at the same time a lot of people. Taking it easy, relaxing and having fun is the so much better than doing anything else that takes up your precious time and takes you away from the things you'd love to do, but can't at this moment. It doesn't at all make you a bad person wishing to do something for fun instead of cooped-up in the little room studying all night then going to work in the morning.
I believe if you'll concentrate on studying and work a little bit more than on anything else, you'll see that when everything will be done a lot sooner than later and when you'll settle down you'll have a lot more time for everyone and everything else, and you won't have to worry about this or that. You'll be able to achieve so much in such short period of time that you'll have more time on your hands than you might not have realized. Just take everything "slowly," and steadily you'll be on your way to the greater things in life and you'll be able to fit in with everyone a lot faster than now.
Imagine, when you'll have a steady job, college and studying behind you, and you'll settle down, you'll be able to find any lady you'd like to be with and you'll be able to dedicate all the time in the world for each other and not worrying that you have an exam the next morning at 8:00am sharp. You'll feel a lot better and all will be at ease, nothing will worry both of you anymore except for one little question: What would you like to do today? :)
2006-06-10 18:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are much more mature person compare to your 24 years old friends. Because you see the life from deferent angle, which will help you to succeed in whole life processes. There I suggest you two pint
1. To marry, because you need accompany
2. Try to change the world not your self always when your right
2006-06-10 18:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by lailumahameed2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the friends thing, but the only time in you life when you get to hang out, drink, and have random sex is in you early twenties, so keep a level head, but don't miss out on the fun, or you will be kicking yourself when you are 40.
2006-06-10 18:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 year olds can be as immature as 15 year olds. as some 35 year olds can be too. So, what does it matter?
Just be yourself. That is the best you can do. What is right for you is right for you. We all exist on different levels of comprehension and understanding. They are comfortable at their level, and you at yours. We all mature at different rates. Just go with the flow.
In 100 years none of it will matter one little bit.
2006-06-10 18:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is definitely not necessary to have sex and stop working to fit into your peer group!what you can do is find some more sensible friends who suit your like able personality because the kind of attitude you are telling about your friends is not anything great.so go ahead and find people who like you the way you are so that you may feel more comfortable with them!and remember you are just perfect and best amidst all.all the best!
2006-06-10 18:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by anee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when is it immature to not drink?
I am older than you and a junior/senior in college, yet I have never party, drink or have sex. When I get married, what I want to marry someone who have never has sex.
2006-06-10 18:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by greenstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, stop comparing yourself to others. That is very immature. A mature person just does what they do without comparing. So it seems as if you are acting within your age group to me.
2006-06-10 18:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is only 19 and I'm 33.. hes basically living the life of a 30 year old man... hes basically a husband and a step- dad and we raise his sister too... shes 14.... . my man loves to stay at home and do family things. he doesn't like to go with his friends and party. he likes it at home. not weird. so why are you trippin.. its what you like. sounds like life is good your doing what you like!
2006-06-10 18:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋