My best best friend (sometimes friend with benefits, yes) but the most special person in my life, well she had a turning point here recently and left Church and started drinking again and smokin dope again and a little partying wasn't so bad but she doesn't have a lot of money but every thur thru sat nite she is at the Bar buying two to four beers plus maybe a shot. Sometimes she will drive right afterwards too... but I feel like she is goin way to far down the dark path. You can't tell her anything and she won't listen to me at if I try to see what's up she is 22 but it's like she's 16 again rebellious and hard headed, she also has changed things with us so what is up what you think?
2006-06-10 18:00:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well. the world is a crazy place. something is making her do all that stuff. it is probably not obvious. maybe she feels unwanted, or maybe she doesn't know what she wants, but she remembers a happier time of being irresponsible and is reverting to it. here's what you can do though - call her up and make her do stuff with you that doesn't involve going to the bar or getting high. make it the best time it could possibly be.
2006-06-10 18:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Chelle 3 · 15⤊ 6⤋
There is only so much you can do for another person. You can tell her you care and that you think she is making mistakes and that you are concerned. You may then simply step back and be there for her if and when she decides to return to you. Don't take advantage of her sexually. Be a good model to her so she can see with her own eyes and feel that you do sincerely care for her. I would suggest that you not enter into drama mode and try to fix things only she can fix for herself.
2006-06-11 01:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that besides offering her your true friendship (one without benefits there isn't going to be much you can do. I would tell her exactly how you feel about the road she is on. I would express my concerns and offer her help in anyway that she needs it. Then I would go on living my life and hope that she makes the right decision. Good Luck!
2006-06-11 01:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by kukkanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best kind of love is an unselfish one. Do what's in her best interest for now, and maybe things will work out for you to date again later. For now she needs her space. She is not ready to date someone as thoughtful and caring as you. She's running from someone or something, so be there for her, but let go of her for now. It's tough, but love isn't always easy.
2006-06-11 01:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in self destruct mode for some reason. And only she knows why, if she does at all. Something has sent her over the edge. A breakup....drugs....loss of self worth.......the list could be endless. All you can do is let her know that you're there for her, if she'd like to seek help for herself. There isnt much one can do for another.......Unless the other wants help....
2006-06-11 01:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what other drugs she's using....she sounds like she's into something heavier than just pot. Something that makes her disrespect herself, and not care about the important things anymore...maybe coke....
2006-06-11 01:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Seerah327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMETHING HAD TO HAPPEN FOR HER TO HAVE TRANSFORMED LIKE THAT
what drives a person to change? what inspires a person to lose faith in themselves and everything theyve hoped for?
no one knows..
2006-06-11 01:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Curious Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋