I have been friends with a girl ever since grade school. Now we in college and have gotten even closer with being friends the past two years. I would do anything for her and she would do anything for her. I love her but she only sees me as a friend. How do I go about this and accept the fact that we can only be friends. I think of her all the time and care about her so much. Please help me.
2006-06-10 18:00:36 · 9 answers · asked by jacoboctober11 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've just got to get away from her. Stop hanging out with her so much, or stop hanging out with her entirely if you have to. Go out, meet new people, try to date someone else. Then you may find you can hang out with her without it stirring up all these feelings. If you still can't, just move on. She may be a nice girl, but the fact that being around her screws you up this much means you need to get away, for your own mental well-being.
2006-06-10 18:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Guelph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, that's so sweet. Sorry she doesn't feel the same way. Listen, its gonna take time, but you have to get rid of these feelings no matter what. Because what you have here is a great friendship, despite the fact that you want more, and you don't want to ruin it. Just think how well you get along and how wonderful it will be to have that for the rest of your life. But if you don't accept reality, it's gonna get to a point where you drive her away or you can't even be in the same room because of the awkwardness. So, no matter how much it hurts, if you care about her and want to keep her in your life, then do so as best friends.
I hope everything turns out okay. I really do.
2006-06-11 01:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think that if you truely love her than you'll understand why you need to just stay friend's, if you ended up together and then broke up you guys will have to face the awkward moments when seeing each other. It would end up ruining your friendship, and is it worth never seeing her again? But there is always a good possiblity that it would be a great relationship, so take it slow think before you speak, and the first thiing you should say is something like this:
"I don't want to ever ruin the friendship we have, but I want to tell you something that I need to get off my chest, and if It's a no then I just want you to know were still going to be great friend's and not to worry about feeling funny around me"
I think she'll understand and you two will be fine, good luck!
2006-06-11 01:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by wldsxychild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to deal with this one buddy. All I can tell you from my experiences is to just be her friend and don't pursue her romantically, or just completely move on. Did she tell you that you're only a friend? How much time do you think she spends thinking about you? These are just some questions to ponder. Hope I've been some help.
2006-06-11 01:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by pericles_attack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i was in the same position as you are right now. as time went on me and her got closer. but it never really worked out. but in your case she just wants to be friends. as in mine was too. i just thought that there are so many other girls out there that would actually like me. i'd just wait till she actually came to you and wanted to move up a step. hope this helps...
2006-06-11 01:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by QUESTIONBOY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating other women and STOP nagging her. Women sometimes like things they can't have.. If you begin dating other women (equal to her looks) and she finds out about it, maybe that will prompt her to come looking for you.
Dr. Phil..
2006-06-11 01:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by j_darpino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is no easy answer for this one. Just try to focus your thoughts on what's best for her... this is an act of true love.
2006-06-11 01:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AHAHAHAHA same prob here
could always check my posting
2006-06-11 01:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by AdINo T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay it is okay your not positvie she dont have the smae feelings for you soo chill....it will all be okay...maybe you need to put it in your mind it isnt meant to be and she isnt thee "one" good luck
2006-06-11 01:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by loverbabyy24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋