My Sister In Law says things that are very painful and she acts like shes better than me?

Question

My sister in law has always been jealous and competitive with me, she hurts me all the time and says obvious mean things just to hurt me, she talks about me to her fiance even though he doesnt even know me he has a bad opinion of me and I have never done anything to her. She has always used her children to her advantage because her daughter is the obvious favorite of my mother in law and she rubs it in my face. She makes little comments about being better then me at everything. She tries to personify herself as the perfect mother, and looks down on everything I say or do... She even goes as far as to say that my child is the mean one to people when they are visiting with us... how can I take her down a peg or two and get rid of that holier then thou attitude of hers? Any suggestions? I dont understand why she treats me so badly because im not a mean human being and I have never done anything to directly hurt her feelings or hurt her in any way. I dont know how to handle this any help?

Answer 1

Man, no offense but she sounds like a *****. I don't understand how people can be so mean to others. You have to be a decent person to care that she's acting like this towards you so I'm assuming you're definetely the good guy (girl) in this situation. Is there some little flaw or fact about her that would really hurt for you to bring out? Or, if you don't want to fight fire with fire, just pretend it doesn't bother you. Her fuel is that she knows she's hurting you. Be as sweet as ever to her and ignore her comments, but don't try to live up to her standards. She'll eventually realize she's not getting to you anymore and knock her crap off. If that doesn't work then just biff her right in the face. Cheer up! Who cares what she thinks? She may also be insecure about her own faults and hopes to cover them or gloss them over by bringing out yours. (Not that you have any! [: )])

Answer 2

It's time to have it out. When you get a moment with her away from kids and family, tell her what you think. Tell her she is acting very immature and that you couldn't care less what she thinks of you. Tell her that everyday you pray that she will "grow up" already b/c you already have your own children to contend with. If she doesn't stop, stonewall her! Ignore her completely, build a wall of apathy for her and all the crap she says will just bounce off. Seriously, why does she insult her brothers child like that. Those kids are cousins and they should love and respect each other. She is destroying the chance for them to feel a strong family bond with each other. What a selfish childish *****. Good luck!

PS don't forget, when you have said all you needed to say, DO NOT stick around to find out what she thinks! Walk away calmly but firm in action, as if you just put your foot down on the situation. If you need some motivation to take charge, think of your daughter and what this negativity does to her.

Answer 3

I know people like this. It doesn't matter what people think about you. It's what you think about yourself that counts. I've found in life that doing mean things does not show good character and you are lowering yourself to her level. You are way to smart for that. When she comes to visit unexpectedly, get your car keys out and tell her you have to run some errands and go run the errands. She will find out eventually that she can't use you anymore to pick on. If you don't have a vehicle, get your coat on and go visit a neighbor.

Answer 4

Obviously she uses you as her whipping post. I'm sure there's a way to belittle her. However, that would merely bring you down to her level, so I wouldnt advise it. I would simply ignore and avoid her. Have absolutely nothing to do with her. She'll need to find someone else to be her whipping post.
And if one questions your attitude towards her, I would simply advise he/she, that you have no desire to be in her company at any time, any place, end of conversation. There's no reason for you to be humiliated any longer. Stop it today!