My brother is 3 years old and me and my mom cant figure out why he wont seem to use the potty. Why wont he use the bathroom?
2006-06-10 16:56:57 · 10 answers · asked by littlebitoliz 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son was the same way except he had other delays as well and was diagnosed with an "organic brain disfunction." Hopefully this isn't the case. I suggest you make some type of a reward system for him, perhaps. If he can sink a lot of cherios in the toilet, then he can pick a cheap prize from a jar. It may work. Going "poopie" would call for some better prizes, I would think.
2006-06-10 17:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Inquisitive 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Every child is different, but here's my experience with my two girls ... I'm a father of 3yr old twin girls. They showed a little interest in toilets when they were 18 months old, so we were thrilled that we might have them out of diapers early. Such was not the case. They preferred to use their diapers and we decided not to make a big deal about it. Quite a while later we started to talk about 'being big girls' and how that included 'big girl panties'. We just continued to have these kinds of conversations now and then until they decided that they wanted to be big girls. It was pretty much a quick adjustment. Every time they went to their potty we would just make a HUGE deal about it .. call each other over, hugs & kisses & clapping. That was the only 'rewards' we used. I think my wife and I must have been quite a sight hopping around the bathroom! It became a fun game for my girls and they would often try to race each other to see who could 'go on the potty' first. We kept them in diapers at night for another couple of months. They both had a couple accidents during the day and night, but not too many and not for too long.
So, from my experience, Don't Worry too much about it. Don't do any of the negative stuff .. I don't see how it's really productive, and it seems just a bit on the mean side, to me. It never really made sense to me, Why make your children feel bad? or uncomfortable? or dirty?
They _will_ learn .. just let them do it on their own time with lots of encouraging words and actions from you.
2006-06-12 02:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him watch you go to use the bathroom also if you think it is appropriate. Whenever you give him something to drink soon after take him to the potty. Let him sit for no less than 5 minutes and no more than 5 minutes. Be comforting and gentle showing him this is natural and easy. Remember to a 3 year old and all children your attitude counts and rubs off on them-make it a positive one. It will take alot of accidents and practice for a child to adopt this new routine. Practice with love will make it perfect. Listen to others but decide for yourself how to handle you little one. Don't let other people put pressure on you or your little one to do things "their way" or "the right or only way". Forget this demanding and narrow minded way of thinking. Children are all different even within families and that includes potty training. Never let a child feel unloved or inaccurate with too much comparison to other children-they are all different but all special. Don't worry and don't give up!
2006-06-11 02:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be afraid. But to make it more fun when it's time to pee pee, have him "Sink the Cheerio". Just throw in a few cheerios (about ten is good) and have him aim for it. Also, to show him there's nothing to be afraid of, if you and/or your family are comfortable with it, let him come in with you when you have to go to the bathroom. Kid's like to mimic older people especially their parents. Also, a good book on the subject is called Once Upon A Potty by Alona Frankel. There's also another one called Everyone Poops but I forget who the author is. Hope this is helpful.
2006-06-11 00:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by hollylloholly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys usually learn later. Having a guy teach him would help a bit, sometimes it is easier to learn from someone with the same equipment.
3 isn't that bad.... just keep practicing.
Find some reward system that works.... like an m&m or sticker every time he goes potty.
Or they make these disposable/flushable fish that you put in the potty to use for "target practice"
2006-06-11 00:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by AOMGMC77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 19 nieces and nephews and 6 step children so from experience I can tell you, sometimes it is a matter of consistency. If you make him sit on the pot with no supervision, eventually he will learn to go.
But if you put a pull up on him at night or when it is a convenience for you, then you are not being consistant and he will not learn to use the bathroom on his own. Children hate to be wet or have defication on them without the security of a diaper, so once he ralizes that there are no diapers to depend on he will begin telling you when he has to go
2006-06-11 00:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by duncanchild7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may think there is a chance he could get flushed down the potty.. im being seriouse.. does he watch rugrats on nickoloden???? cause a friend of mine's kid does and he is terified of the toilet the bath tub windows and doors and many other thing. so he may have a hear of the tolit
2006-06-11 00:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is afraid that when he goes to use the "potty" his penus will fall off.
2006-06-11 00:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Icecream Lover 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well im strill working with my 3 year old just be paient
2006-06-11 00:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by teresa_weatherby2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rewards, praise, encouragement
2006-06-11 16:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by observer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋