2006-06-10 16:06:21 · 18 answers · asked by prettygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It all depends on the person and the relationship between the spouse and the deceased. Some people wouldn't be ready to date again in 5 years, for some it might only take 6 months. The grief process needs to be fulfilled, though.
2006-06-10 16:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by dulcetpurr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you were married, if there are any kids, how the spouse died ( was the person sick a long time or was it sudden) and when the spouse feels ready to remarry. I think out of respect the living spouse should wait at least a year.
2006-06-10 23:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by mrsseifer736 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law started dating within the month.....okay maybe it was 5 weeks. She was married about a year later. In her defense, my father in law had been sick with cancer for several years, so she had time to get used to the idea. But there are family members who will swear she was cheating on him and coming home around sunrise long before he died. None of her children were very happy with her for it. They were aged 14-23 at the time.
I'd say wait a year AT LEAST.
My fiance (and father of my son) passed away while I was pregnant. It was 6 months later before I was even able to think about anyone else. It was 9 months later when I started thinking about having a boyfriend. EXACTLY TO THE DAY a year later I went on my first date with a very very special man who I have now been married to for 7 years. I got married 2 years and 1 month after my fiance's death. Do I still miss him? Of course. Especially since my son is his identical twin and even talks like him. But I knew I had to move on for both my son and myself.
Everyone is different and mourns at a different rate. But seriously, I think it's disrespectful to start dating any sooner than about 6 months. I couldn't even THINk of anyone in that way for so long. My mother in law on the other hand..............well, she IS my husband's mother so I can't say what a sl*t she is.
2006-06-10 23:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by married_so_leave_me_alone1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long it takes to get over the deceased one. If the guy was a very caring and very missed person, then it will naturally be difficult for anyone to get over the person's passing. If the person was basically a nobody or hurt others, then he will be mourned very little. Either way, people usually use up their own individual time to feel sorrow for their dearly departed one. One really shouldn't judge them. Everyone's time would be different.
2006-06-10 23:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Inquisitive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on the person. it is a personal decision. some people stay so deeply in love with their departed that they can't even imagine moving on. some people realize that life goes on and they do. i know when my mom past away, it was only four months later i had said to my sister that i wish my dad to find someone. he on the other hand compares everyone to my mom, so he is not ready. i had an uncle who married within a year of my aunt's death. the only thing i can say, if you are ready, go for it...it's hard enough to find one, god bless you for finding two and best of luck.
2006-06-10 23:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a matter of what your heart is comfortable doing. There definitely has to be some grieving and recovery time. Losing a spouse is a tragic thing and I speak from losing a fiance to Cancer. It may take you longer that it took me. We are all different and grieve different ways. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-06-10 23:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon would be while the ground is still soft, once the grass grows over the plot and a few floral arrangements have been left, it's open season.
2006-06-10 23:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm well my dad re-married within the year. but personally i think he should have waited....but then again i was only 10 at the time. so maybe like 2 years?
2006-06-10 23:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my grandpa died not even a year ago and my grandma is getting re married and i havnt talked to her since. And my dad died a month ago but my mom doesnt want to get married again. I think it is your desicion and your childrens if you have ne. Think it over.
2006-06-10 23:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by littlebitoliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get married when ever you feel you are ready it doesn't matter who thinks it is to soon you are the only person who knows when your ready and who cares what everyone else thinks
2006-06-11 18:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by bnabrat_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋