find someone else?..... i did met some really nice people after we broke up but i always compare them to my 1st love ..... and they always lose out.......
2006-06-10 15:26:37 · 12 answers · asked by h4ppyhouse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There really is never a way to get over your first love. They were your first so you will always have a place for them in your heart.
As for comparing others to that one relationship.....everyone does it. You look at the good and bad points of past relationships but remember.....you are with someone else now.....there is a reason you are no longer with the first.
Hole on to the good memories of your first love, and move on to bigger and better things.
2006-06-10 15:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by cjs702002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will take away the sting, but I don't think you can get 100% over your first love. I am not saying the terrible feeling you have now will last, that will get better, but you may always feel a little something for this person. If you are comparing your other dates to your first love, you may want to wait a bit before you start dating again. It is not fair to you or the other people, as a healthy relationship has 2 people in it not 3. I have been there though, and know it is much easier said than done. Hang in there, it will get better.
2006-06-10 22:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Josie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over you 1st love is to first, get rid of anything that reminds you of them (things that they bought you, pictures, etc.). Then, you should begin to focus more on yourself. What activities can you do that make you happy? Hang out with your friends more. Date other people and DON'T compare them to the ex. There's a reason why you two didn't work out. MOVE ON! Comparing is only hurting your chances of being with a great person. Let me tell you, the new people that you meet aren't losing out...YOU ARE!
2006-06-10 22:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by jolo4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting with someone else is a mistake.. don't rebound date.. You're right - you will always compare them to her/him and they will be losing out.. You sound very mature for at least realizing that much .. Take time .. alot of time.. to figure out better who you are and exactly what you want from life and from a partner.. You lose alot of yourself when you are in a relationship.. Take time to enjoy things you can't do as easily when you are with someone - and I don't really mean partying and sleeping around! For example, if I was single I would love to travel, backpack across Europe, study abroad, volunteer in Guatamala, take an eco-tour in Costa Rica, etc. etc. which is much harder when you are with someone! Find things that you love to do and ENJOY LIFE
Good luck ;)
2006-06-10 22:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get over a first love because forever you will be comparing him with your existing relationships. But hopefully, a first love just fades away once you have become more mature and might have probably meet your real love.
2006-06-10 22:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by bunny7291 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comparing doesn't helps u to resolve it.. if u feels happy with her just go ahead .. n u'll find the perfect answer rather than now ur guessing..
2006-06-10 22:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lovella F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might never forget about him but you can put him in the past just move on hang out a while till youre ready to start dating again. ^_^
2006-06-10 22:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Dopey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u want never get over him no time soon so just
date but don't compare them if u do do it in your mind!!!!!!!!
2006-06-10 22:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by coco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals take it slow and hang with friends a lot
2006-06-10 22:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by soccersweetie982005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find somebody else because its someone out there better than what you had
2006-06-10 23:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by tee-tee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋