I saw last night that I am not responsiblle for being raped?

Question

A girl IMMed me ( her yahoo name is snickelfritzcje) last night and took me through a mental/spiritual exercise and i saw for the first time since I was raped that I dont have to feel guilty for being raped. She took me thru this thing that i cant describe and half way thru it I began to realize that I wasnt an unconsciously 12 year old alluring female....and it wasnt my fault at all .....I hope this feeling lasts and Im praying for being free from fear and anxiety. If it wasnt for this question thing I wouldnt have had the guts to seek answers. Also she showed me how to tell my parents who did it and what happened...ty Jesus, ty God and all the angels...and this girl that talked to me...I dont feel totally healed but that was a huge weight off my mind.....I want to be free of all the fear and panic attacks and the memories....plz pray if you will

Answer 1

You are absolutely not responsible for your rape. Child molesters are methodical and manipulative. Rape is about control and violence. You could not have made it happen if you wanted to.

I'm so glad snickelfritzcje could help you. I'm glad you're feeling stronger and that this forum enables you to be brave enough to talk about it. I hope that you grow in confidence so that you can seek counseling.

I know many of us seem stuck on that idea, but I hope you gain the courage you need to work through this with a real live person with some background and training who can give you the help you deserve.

I thank God for your help and healing thus far, and I beseech Him for your continued success and healing.

Answer 2

It is terrible what happened to you. I hope you find the strength to get through the trying times ahead. Here are a few words of warning from personal experience.

It is very likely that you were not the only person that the criminal raped. It is imperative that you come forward and tell your parents and the police what happened. Anything less might be easier for you in the short term, but it will ultimately lead to the criminal raping more victims.

However, it is also quite likely that your parents and/or other relatives will not believe you or will act like it just isn't important. Child molestation is an epidemic in the modern world and nearly every family contains someone who has been involved in it. In many cases, people who were victimized as a child and never came forward about it will come to the defense of the rapist instead of protecting the victims. That is certainly what happened with several of my aunts when my sister and other female cousins came forward about what our uncle had done to them.

In the end, you simply must speak out about what happened if you don't wish for it to happen again to others. However, be prepared for some of those people you trust and love to blame you for everything and disown you. If that doesn't happen, your relatives are better people than mine.

Answer 3

Thank you God for putting these two people together so this young lady could heal from the horrid experience she went through. I pray God that she finds to the courage to tell her parents and to get the spiritual guidance and counseling she needs to allow her to overcome the fear this act has placed in her. Wrap a hedge of protection around her dear God that no weapon formed against her will prosper. In Jesus mighty name and by his blood, Amen.

Praise you for reaching out to someone. I am an incest survivor and the beginning of my healing came when I found out, like you, that I did nothing to promote the sexual advances and that I was the victim of a cruel and selfish man.

Answer 4

You're 12? Yes, you should tell your parents, and then the Police. Raping someone is a violent and hateful crime, and the man that did it to you should be locked away for a very long time. Of course it's not your fault - do not blame yourself for what a sick and vile person did to you. I will pray for you. Best of luck, and God bless.

Answer 5

Of course you aren't responsible for being raped - ever. The person who did that to you is solely responsible. I'm only sorry you've ever felt you were.

I'm happy this person you named was able to relieve you of that tremendous burden and allow you to tell on the individual and stop him from doing the same thing to other girls. It's good to know you've been helped, particularly through yahoo answers.

This is a frightening world and we all, particularly young women, need to be cautious of whom we speak to and where we go. At your age, when a man can convince you it's your fault for what he did only proves there are some terrible predators around.

God bless you honey. You've done a good thing and helped get one of them off the streets. Be at peace with yourself, but be smart and safe too.

Answer 6

Anyone who gets raped is not responsible...they are the victim and should never feel guilty for being attacked. I hope you have realize this and that you can now move forward.
I wish you all the best in the future, be well and take care.

Answer 7

Some times angels are just what happened to you. They may show up in the form of real people with the power to help you. They are just as much real angels as the ones sent from heaven. I will pray for you!!!

Answer 8

I feel for you...For years I had very vivid memories of being molested by an uncle but was so young, for years i denyed it to myself and doubted, one day a physuic IMed me and said I was molested around the age o seven by7 a male family memebr..and thats the age I have memories of this taking place around age 7..

Answer 9

God Bless and You and your newly friend. As a victim of a rape you are not and should not feel guilty. An attack on a victim is simply what it is. Your the victim. Good Luck

Answer 10

It's not your fault at all, it's the sick person who did it to you...but the devil wants you to feel like it was your fault, remember he's a lie. He wants to kill, steal, and destroy us; no matter how, he wants to control us and make us feel bad. Don't allow him to do that to you....close your eyes and feel God's loving arms wrapped around you, comforting you, He wants you to know He loves you, and He's always there for you. He will take care of the ignorant person who did this to you, continue to pray for healing it'll come...trust me. I've been raped 3 x's in my life it took me to abusing drugs and alcohol, and making alot of bad choices. But since I released my secrets, and accepted Jesus Christ into my life I Don't make bad choices, and don't abuse drugs or alcohol!!!!!! PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!! I will pray for your healing....