Why do females always assume that men should know that they want, need or feel. Why not just tell us.? Wouldnt telling us men be just the end of the problem and we men can then spend time doing what makes you females happy rather then guessing what makes you happy and getting it wrong everytime and you still being pissed of but STILL wont tell us. "you are the ones who say communication is important but wont communicate. why ?.
2006-06-10 14:46:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If communication and importnat why dont you all communicate your feeling, needs and wants plus emotions or is it just a one way street. If females are upset etc then we are supose to turn into mind readers and when males are upset then we should communicate, is that it............?
2006-06-10 14:49:45 · update #1
you sound like such a sweet guy...
2006-06-14 09:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by KRIS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that women in general are better than men at picking up nonverbal cues. With this in mind realize that many women can "read your mind" and expect that you should be able to read hers too.
That being said you are absolutly right!!! The lady in question SHOULD tell you what's going on with her. Just remember that you have the burden of being someone that she feels comfortable opening up to.
If she won't tell you what's wrong one option is saying something like, "I'm here for you, whenever your ready, give me a hug... blah blah blah" maybe that will help.
If not consider finding someone who is more willing to be open with her feelings and not pile a bunch of expectations upon you to be a mind reader!
2006-06-14 01:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by mamabirda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't tell u guys what to do step by step because we wouldn't want to feel that we have to raise a child .I personaly like the fact that my partner knows what and when things should be done. If at this pont of your life u don't know what a woman wants needs and deserves than you are probably not ready for a relationship.
2006-06-10 22:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by chikis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's mostly b/c the woman in the relationship gets upset over things that the man has done and that she shouldn't have to point out what the man did, because he should already know what it is he's done. Maybe this isn't the answer you're looking for, but when I'm mad at my boyfriend this is usually why. In my mind I beleive he knows what he's done, he's just playing dumb to it.
2006-06-10 21:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we tell you in the first place, then you forget, so when you forget, we won't say anything until you figure it out. Here's an example. I will tell my husband in the morning, "I checked the mail". In the afternoon as we leave to go somewhere, he will check the mail. Which tells me he wasn't listening to me in the first place. Then he acts like I never said anything to him, when I can picture exactly when I told him. It just tells me that he blocks me out or pretends to hear me. So, I do it back to him, and he gets so mad at me, like "I" should've listened to him, blah blah blah. When he does it to me, its no big deal, but the earth shatters when I do it to him. So I bypass talking to my husband about my feelings, because he doesn't listen anyway, and I talk to my family. Which ticks him off because now its "gossiping". Men act like women are confusing, gees. I think the men make more confusion by not listening in the first place.
2006-06-14 09:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by eekiwanttodeletethis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't this a two way street....How about men telling women what they want & need, rather then letting them guess.It would make things so much easier and a lot less feelings of hurt.
2006-06-10 21:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the female. If she communicates it once, she expects you to remember. If she has to tell you more then once then yes she will be upset. Sit down and talk to your girl, pay attention and ask questions.
2006-06-10 21:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Luvnu_always baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand u cuz i feel the same way but me i tell the guy .i tell anyone .maybe some girls are jus afraid that they might be a little pushy .im the type thats not afraid of letting ma feelings show.u should look for someone that has the same interest that u do .ma man doesnt show me his feelings but i tell him to and it works cuz now he knows he should not be afraid to affection.
2006-06-10 21:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do you just don't lisen good enought to under stand. Some times we come right out and tell you, you just don't understand
2006-06-10 21:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think we just expect guys to be more sensitive 'bout the way we feel not to become mind readers. chill...
2006-06-10 21:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by swyt_suphladah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋