Would you get over it???

Question

i took a pregnace test and i'm pregnant... i'm living with my b/f right now and his not happy about having a kid so young (his 15) but he says he's going to stick with me (he says he loves me way to much) ... and we are thinking about keeping the baby!!! I'm reall exicted about the new baby!!! But my mom wants me to have an abotion.... (i would never!!!) i havn't talk to her much since i told her i was pregnant but mom should get over it soon... right???

I'm 13... i took a pregnace test and i'm pregnant... i'm living with my b/f right now and his not happy about having a kid so young (his 15) but he says he's going to stick with me (he says he loves me way to much) ... and we are thinking about keeping the baby!!! I'm reall exicted about the new baby!!! But my mom wants me to have an abotion.... (i would never!!!) i havn't talk to her much since i told her i was pregnant but mom should get over it soon... right??? I'm not asking her to do anything i just don't want this to end our relationahip...

Answer 1

Why are you living with your boyfriend?How old are you?No baby she might not get over it sometimes when we are young our parent's can see things that we can't see.It's not until later on in life we see or understand why that comment was made.You and your boyfriend are very young and she probably don't want to see you struggle that's all.Mom knows how hard it's going to be that's all.Who is working you or your boyfriend work?How are you guys going to support the baby?By your ages I would hope that both of ya'll are still in school.I'm not on mom side because it's going to be your decision when it's all said and done.You take care of yourself,and know it's not going to be easy.You have a lot of sleepless night's ahead of you.I'll be praying for you and your boyfriend.Take care.

Answer 2

She is just upset because you are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You don't need to go out and get pregnant at this age. So I think your mom just thinks you're too young. My suggestion, is that you talk it out with your mom and tell her why you want to keep the baby. Hopefully, you two can come to an understanding.

About the abortion part, I totally disagree with it. Babies are living and breathing, whether they are visible or not. Abortions murder babies that never even had the chance to see daylight. So abortions are just not the answer. Either prepare for the baby's arrival or take it to a children's home if someone can handle the baby. Don't kill it. By the way, congrats on the baby and good luck with everything

Answer 3

I am sure your mom was very upset when you told her. I'm sure it is a scary thing for you and her both. I am a mother of a 13 year old and I would hate for her to come to me in a couple of years and tell me she was pregnant. I am glad your boyfriend seems to be sticking with you and supporting you, at least for now. I personally think you are way to young to have a baby and care for it. You will be giving up alot of your teenage life. A baby is a major lifetime commitment and will always be a major responsibility. Your mom may come around and give you some support and help but don't plan on her keeping and raising the baby for you. It is your and your bf's responsibility. Your mom I'm sure loves you and wants the best for you. Think about all your options and talk them out with counselors, advisor, doctors whoever to get the best help and advice you can. Ultimately, it is your choice and I will pray that you will make the right one for you and all concerned. Prayer is one of the strongest things you can do that will help you. God Bless.

Answer 4

Talk to your mom and tell her how you feel and that you think it's wrong to have an abortion - or whatever your reasons are. Be honest with her and tell her that you are keeping the baby and you are excited about being a mom. Tell her you need her emotional support and you really want her to be there for you.
She will eventually get over it - I can't see someone not wanting to be a part of their grandchild's life - but it might take her some time, so if she needs time to adjust then give it to her. She is probably just concerned that you and your bf might be too young to raise a baby.
I don't think abortion is right, but have you thought about adoption? You don't mention your age - but you say your bf is 15, you both seem very young to be raising a baby. If you are 100% sure you wanna raise the baby then God bless you and your new family. But, if you aren't sure - don't have an abortion, give your baby up for adoption because there are SO many couples out there who desperatley want a baby and can't have one. I know because I've been trying to get pregnant for 7yrs with no luck. Good luck and best wishes with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 5

Have the baby and put it up for adoption. So many married, working, home owning couples that can't have children are hoping and praying for a baby to raise as their own.
You and your b/f have no schooling to get you anywhere in life. No steady, good paying job. No home of your own to take the baby. You have so much left to do just to grow up. Give the baby a chance with an already grown up mama & daddy that can afford to raise the child. I know you could love it too and I know that money doesnt matter if you have each other. So you think. But It is tough raising a child with both parents "already" grown. Both parents already thru school and hopefuly college. Already have bought a house. There are homes you can go to while you are pregnant that will help you thru it and find a good home for the baby . Please think about it. You are so very young.

Answer 6

If you believe abortion is wrong, don't do it no matter what your mom says. You gotta be able to live with yourself, and if you break your morals it's hard to do that. However, adoption would more than likely be the best choice, since you guys can't even take care of yourselves, let alone a baby. And a lot of guys *say* they'll stick around, and then split as soon as they realize exactly how annoying it is to take care of a baby.

The way I see it, your mom has to get over it sooner or later. What happened happened, and even if she doesn't like it she can't turn back time. Just give her some time to adjust and stuff.

Answer 7

You'll see why your mom is so adamant that you don't have this baby. You aren't going to have a doll that you can put down when you get tired of it. You will not have two minutes to yourself anymore after you have this baby. Who is going to support this baby? Who is going to buy diapers and formula, clothes, and medicine when it needs it? Cripes, neither one of you can even drive yet, who is going to get you to the many doctor appointments?
Here's a test for ya........when you go to bed tonight, set your alarm clock for every two hours (if your lucky), and every time it goes off, get up, go to the fridge, pretend your filling a bottle of milk, go to the bathroom (since you'll have to change the diaper) then go back to bed. In two hours do it again. Then try to function the next day. Do this for about a week and tell me you want to have a baby. And that's just the beginning of it, it gets harder from there.
I advise you to give it up for adoption, or at the very least find an adult to raise it while you grow up yourself.
My question is, what kind of mom lets her 13yo live anywhere other than home, let alone with a 15yo boyfriend who is just a kid himself.

Answer 8

Your mother is upset because you gave her quite a shock. She probably had a vision of how her baby's life should go, and ending up pregnant at 13 didn't factor into it. She's probably also realistic enough to realize that she's most likely going to end up doing the majority of the child-rearing. At 13, you can't financially handle a child, and at 15, your boyfriend can't help you.

Wait until your mother calms down, then talk with her about your options. All of them. I'll pray for you all, because your lives are all about to drastically change in ways you can't even imagine.

Answer 9

I understand if you don't want an abortion. Do consider adoption though. At 13 & 15 your chances of successfully raising a child and remaining together are about zero. Give your child love and a chance to be raised by adults who can take care of them. Why are you living with your boyfriend and having sex at 13? Oh well I guess it's a little late to tackle that issue.
If you love the child and boyfriend give the child up for adoption.

Answer 10

I'm sure your mother will get over it, it'll just take time. It is just sad to see that her little girl is going to be a mom too, but there isn't anything that can be done now. Try to talk to her about what you plan to do and your postition on abortion. It will be a lot of hard work and i wish you luck. Whatever you do, DO NOT get an abortion If you have to give up for adoption. My prayers go out to you and your new family, good luck once aagain.