my dad is going to war...?

Question

my dad is going to war next month! and me, mom and my siblings are going to move... to a different location. I just dont see why we cant just solve the problem with the war?! what happend to those treaties? does that help or something? while my dad is gone to war... he is going to be gone for a long time and there are soo many emotions that are going through my mind...and i really dont know how to say good bye to him.. cause i dont want it to sound like he is going to die, but... he knows that i love him and dont want him to go... is there another way that i could just express that emotion?

Answer 1

My daughter e-mailed me everynight and sent me letters and there was the occasional phone call.I have been to Iraq and Afghanistan within a 4 year period so she's use to it.She knows it's my job and wars happen.(She's eleven) and that I love my job. She knows I'll be leaving for my 3rd tour and we are spending a lot of time together. Instead of being negative, cherish every moment with him and help him out. He'll appreciate that and not have to worry about you guys back home but staying focused on his mission so he can come back home to you guys/.

Answer 2

Just tell your dad you love him. He's going to be ok, dont worry hon. I know its hard. My husband is in the military and Ive seen so many of our friends go off to war. Its always hard to see someone you love go off to war. Write to him any chance you get. That will make you and him feel better about being apart. You wont have to miss your dad. You'll be able to talk to him. Most people over there have computers and internet access. You could probably talk to him nearly every day with instant messanger.

Good luck and dont worry. He will be ok. You're not the only one going through this and Im sure you will be able to find others who are going through the same thing. Try finding a discussion group for people from your military base. When my husband was stationed at Ft. Irwin I joined a Yahoo! Group for people stationed at Ft. Irwin. Actually it was for a wives group, turned out I didnt like it so I created my own Ft. Irwin group for everyone and it caught on. If you cant find a group you can always make one. :)

Good luck. You'll be ok, and like I said. You'll be able to talk to him all the time. So no worries.

Answer 3

you could tell him that you love him and to return home soon and be safe. Sorry to hear that is happening, my brother went to Iraq and it was difficult for my mom and I. We have to understand that men that go to war feel that they have a duty to our country and to protect our country which also mean their loved ones. It is important that you let your dad know that you love him and support his decision, even if you will be sad and dont like that fact that he is leaving. It will make it easier on him knowing the ones he loves understands and supports this difficult decision. I am sure he would rather be home with his family than going to war. You dad is going to war because he loves his country and especially his family very, very much. Talking to other people your age that is or has gone thru the same thing is helpful for you.

Answer 4

God bless you and your familie's souls your dad is a great man, just remember a picture is worth a thousand words so send him pictures while he's gone, and write to him. You could express your emotion by supporting him and telling him how proud of him you are. I too have a loved one serving in Iraq right now, and its tough. But you'll make it through.

Good luck and good wishes, I hope things turn out alright :-)

Answer 5

This is a complicated question. I've had several friends sent to Iraq, though not family. I would say tell him how much you love him every chance you get and after he leaves write him every day, even if you don't have any news. Don't shy away from talking to him about it just because you're nervous about how you sound. He knows the risks he's about to face. I'm sure he knows that you're afraid for him. Just talk and be honest.

Answer 6

Darling you mustn't worry. My husband has been to Iraq twice and our Girls felt just like you do before he went. He came home safely twice and most people do. The absolute best thing that you can do for him, is to write him lovely letters so that he knows you are thinking of him, telling him all about what you have been getting up to, and to work hard at home so that he can be even prouder of you than he is now. He will write and telephone. We never want them to go but we really do have to keep things going at home. When he leaves just hug him and tell him that you love him and remember that you will be doing that again when he comes home.

Answer 7

I'm in a similar situation my boyfriend is going to Iraq in July for a whole year or more!!! I don't want him too go I want him to stay with me so we can be happy together. I don't know how to say good bye either and I don't know if it will be the last time I will see my boyfriend either. But all we can do is support our loved ones and pray for their safety, and wait for their return!!

Answer 8

Your dad sounds very nice and loving. A war has to be fought for peace to come. He is obviously brave and couragous. Be happy for him. Be happy that he is going overseas to fight for the country he loves, for freedom. Tell him that you love him. And tell him no matter where he is, you will always be there with him. If he dies fighting, just think of the better place he will be in. Where he can always be young, always be handsome, and meet God. It is a big blessing to go to heaven. Call me crazy but, I am not at all afraid to die. :)

Answer 9

When I was in Iraq, my cousins who were still in middle/high school organized a drive and sent packages to all the soldiers in my unit. It was amazing... we recieved over 100 packages of things from toiletries to plastic spoons, to snacks and goodies and magazines. This effort not only showed me how much they cared but also kept moral high. Everyday getting a new package and being able to see what was in it was exciting and gave me something to look forward to. Also, the stuff I was able to give to the other soldiers made me feel good and kept them happy as well. This is especially important around the holidays. Also ***** tape yourself and put it on a DVD then send it to him so he can see you on video... also very good. When my gf was down range her husband did this with their 8 month old so she could watch him grow.

Answer 10

I can relate to you. My husband just left this week to go to Iraq. It is hard. You don't have to say good-bye. When my husband left the first time last summer, we said I will see you soon. It makes it easier, and it doesn't sound like he is going to die.