This is the wedding of a friends brother. We are not close but I was invited and intend to go. My friend says that the wedding shower present and the wedding gift are two separate gifts. I really am not wanting to appear cheap but am at a loss for what to do. HELP PLEASE!!!!
2006-06-10 12:40:38 · 10 answers · asked by Robin N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you were invited to the wedding shower then yes you should get a gift for that, and then a seperate gift for the wedding. You don't have to spend a lot of money - check where they are registered and go for cheapest stuff on the list. If they aren't registered you can't go wrong getting them things all couples can use - glasses/stuff for the kitchen - which you can get at nice places like Macy's and still not spend an arm an a leg.
2006-06-10 12:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are both separate gifts.
Either Go to the wedding SHOWER and NOT attend the Wedding
OR
NOT go to the wedding shower and GO to the wedding.
Wedding gifts do not have to be expensive. Buy part of one for the shower and give the other half for the wedding present.
2006-06-10 14:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding etiquette says that you must send a gift if you are invited to the bridal shower, whether you attend or not.
With regard to the wedding gift, etiquette says you should give a gift equivalent to the amount the bride and groom spent on your meal. So, if it's being held at an expenseive place, and you don't have the money to spend (or give), you might want to decline the invitation.
Hope this helps.
2006-06-10 16:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by jillygoat11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bring a separate gift to each event, the shower and the wedding are two different things. Get them the spiral bound edition of The Joy Of Cooking for a shower present, very inexpensive (about $20) and one of the best gifts I got at my shower. It was from the sister of one of my bridesmaids and I use it weekly. Check their registry for a wedding present in your price range. A Versaware crock pot makes a great gift too.
2006-06-10 15:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to a wedding shower and bring a gift, a wedding gift is not necessary - you've already done your part. A wedding gift would only be necessary if you didn't go to a wedding shower and give a gift.
2006-06-10 12:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the shower and buy a gift for the wedding.
2006-06-17 04:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by cassie12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 19:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bride will know you already brought a gift, so i think your in the clear with just one gift for the shower..
2006-06-10 15:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're getting a present, so what does it matter? i don't think they're gonna think u're cheap because they don'i really know you.... u missed the shower, so i think u only need to get one gift....
2006-06-10 12:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by bk_cutie_luvs_u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
split the cost of the money your planning to spend on both !!!!
2006-06-10 12:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋