I am gay, is there any one knows how it is to be gay at 16. let me know how to get through it. e-mail badboy_atj09@yahoo.com
2006-06-10 12:18:46 · 16 answers · asked by Alex J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask ur frend out, tell him u love him and that u want to marry him and be with him for the rest of ur life, if he rejects RAPE him
2006-06-10 12:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by *shadzzy* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no one way, and I know what it's like.
Be aware that some people may suddenly feel uncomfortable around you, you may lose good friends. They may respond with religion or suggestions for therapy. There is no way of knowing how others will react -- but if you feel that it is the right thing for you, for your own well-being at this time, then it's appropriate. But, be prepared for your "worst case."
Come out at a pace that makes you comfortable, in other words, you don't need to set deadlines. Don't come out as part of an argument, or when you're experiencing any strong emotion other than joy. Coming out in anger can make things more difficult because your sexuality will be associated with that moment.
Be prepared to answer their questions in the most calm way possible, preferably with a little humor. Most may not ask detailed questions about what you do or what you may have done, but some might. If you think it's none of their business, let them know that. Most importantly, they will want to know that you are certain... that it's not just a phase, so be certain yourself and be prepared to tell them that, yes, you are certain. Probably several times.
Let them know that you are sharing this with them because you want to be honest about who you are... that the people you're coming out to mean something to you or you wouldn't be doing it.
You may have to teach them about the issues that gays (and especially gay teens) face. Do a little research if you need to and be able to suggest resources for them.
You may not want them to share this with other people right away, and if that's the case, you have every right to keep it just between yourselves for now. Once you've done it a couple of times, though, you'll ride on an emotional high. There is nothing I've ever felt that was so liberating, so filled with relief, and so life-changing. Don't get carried away with the high... but when the time is right... when you feel it, you can take bigger steps.
good lluck to you!
2006-06-10 19:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say," Guys? I have something important that i want to say... I'm sort of like gay." Then if they really are true friends they will except it or get used to it.... i hav many homo and gay friends that just came out and told me and all of our friends stayed together even tho these ppl are different.... they are still normal in my eyes
2006-06-10 19:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Julie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come right out and tell them and if they are true friends they will be there for you and with you, these days it seems the trend is to be bisexual although as a mom of 3 teens ages 13 14 and 16 im not sure at that age they are even aware of their sexuality but at least 1/2 of their friends are claiming to be bisexual. above all be true to yourself and if your friends turn out not to be friends then find new ones. take care and please be safe
2006-06-10 19:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by serjsnumba1fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. I bet one of them or more already knows. I'm 35 and when I was 23 my best friend I knew since highschool told me he was gay. He thought I wouldn't be his friend if he told me. And my reply was I already had that feeling that he was.
2006-06-10 19:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by tannya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first decide how close these friends are to you,if they really mean a lot to you i'd sit down and tell them the truth. just be prepared to have them freak out, then give them some time too get used to the idea. good luck
2006-06-10 19:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest way to tell your firends your gay is to start having sex with one of them. they'll get your message and you can all have a nice laugh after.
2006-06-10 19:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Adam Ding Dong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're really your friends, then they'll be able to accept the fact that you're gay.
2006-06-10 19:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by tz93304 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL THEM THAT YOU NEED TO TALK TO THEM AND NOT TO TAKE IT THE WRONG WAY AND JUST COME OUT AND SAY IM GAY
2006-06-10 19:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GAY!! thats somewthing that friend pretty much understand
2006-06-10 19:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋