My mom wants to justify her mistakes with me, but instead of setting an example of him, she takes it out on me. Today he had to work on a project and instead of doing anything worthwhile on it, its due monday, he spent the entire day playing games with them, no ork done nothing, except their going to the Arlington cemetery to shoot the film they "need", when they could have actually bickled down and done everything today. Just a few minutes ago, he asked our mom for thirty dollars to go to the rock climb nearby. He says their going to do the project at 12:30, but my mom eats up anything he says as an absolute truth. Then he asked her for twenty dollars for a "field trip" to go to like 4 places, even though it would cost about 50 normally, so I believe he lying about that too. I don't know whats he's really doing, I hate my mom for her idolizing, and I want to kill him because we go into a fight earlier. What should I do to set an example of him, put him in his place, so to speak. Help!
2006-06-10 11:45:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
theres a year between us, no more, no less. That gets annoying too.
2006-06-10 13:09:13 · update #1
all truth comes to light if your mom finds out hes lying he'll get and if he doesn't then tell your mom every time he's taken advantage of her because just because hes the baby doesn't mean he should get away wih everything he'll never grow up that way
2006-06-10 11:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're mom idolizes your brother you need to know it has nothing to do with you, it's not your fault, it is an issue your mother has. As for trying to put your brother in his place, you need to just let him suffer the consequences of his own actions. If he doesn't spend time on his project then he will get a bad grade.
As far as the $ goes, you can try to point out to your mom what you think, but it sounds like it won't get you anywhere.
I'm sorry it gets taken out on you, that's not fair. Have you tried talking to your mom about how you feel?
2006-06-10 18:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must wounder how much younger is he ?
Sometimes children do not realize that they were raised by different parents .
The parents that raised you were different because their circumstances at that time were different ,perhaps they had less money more worries and bills .They did the best they could with what they knew when they knew better they did better .
Try not to compare you will be far better off .
Try not to judge your mom .
loose your self in sports or hobbies,reading is also great .
It is not your job to put him in his place ,how ever I would be worried about drugs perhapes if he needs so much money .
Pray for him .A careing brother will be listend to better then an upset one .
Have a great day !
2006-06-10 19:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what's your guys' age differences? I hated my little sister with a passion when we were younger. She was a little liar too. We are 8 years apart. Now that I'm 31 and she's 23, we get along great. It wasn't her fault my parents liked her more. It was their fault for treating us differently. Now that we see that, we are good friends as adults. Screw your parents. I say try to befriend him...you'd be amazed at the reaction you'll get from your mom if she sees you two get along. It will really freak her out. lol She's the one you need to make an example out of.
2006-06-10 18:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by furnace4bro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I have a little sister and she gets away with everthing too. Well tell youre mom that it is not youre falt of youre little brothers mess ups. But I understand that younger sibling will always get there way no matter what. So everytime my little sis annoys me I rub all my prifleges in her face. Like I can shave my legs,wear makeup,date,go to the movies and she can't. I know she ruins some of my life but I can do more than she can.
2006-06-10 18:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother's always want to believe the best about their children no matter how much they screw up. You need to concentrate on your life and not worry about your brother and what is fair because life is not fair and he might always be treated better. Talk to your mom about how you feel without putting your brother down. Just say you feel like she doesn't spend enough time with you ,or is hard on you. If you bring up your brother and his faults , you will just look jealous .
2006-06-10 19:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you're joking about killing your brother my problems went as bad as yours but I had a time with my older brother. And you know what I just started being really nice to him and he decided he would just stop what he was doing and we've been pretty good friends since it wasn't easy but it worked. You just gotta work at it. Ohh and we also got this book that helped a lot with our struggle it's called making brothers and sisters best friends written by 3 sibs (funny that the younger set examples to) I hope things work out for you and your brother
2006-06-10 18:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anime_Chickadee ^.^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don.t worry about what your brother gets or does, you can never change him or the way your mom sees him without damaging yourself in the process. Worry about making yourself the kind of person you can respect. When you let your attention wander to how someone else is, you are building resentments which are harmful to your peace of mind. Yours is the face you see in the mirror, do something to make it smile.
2006-06-10 18:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tom S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat him up again. Works for me every time... as soon as the slaves begin to get restless, crack the whip and all will settle into place.
You gotta beat him up every once and a while to show him who's in charge!
2006-06-10 18:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by jeff_is_sexy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hide his stuff then be really mean by snitch
hey when it gets bad dont play fair
2006-06-10 18:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by kaseistgut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋