I am 27 and have been dating someone who is several years younger. 5 to be exact. We started dating about 4 months ago and I've just been taking it for what it is..... A good time! We have a lot in common, but I am at an age where not only do I want to start a relationship where I can settle down, but I also have a set of twins. I have also recently met someone who is my age and has a little girl, we are just getting to know each other and he is going through a break up right now. What do I do? Is it too soon to ask the guy i've been dating for 4 months where we stand? I don't want to burn bridges, but I don't want to lead him on right now either. I also don't know what can come of this new friendship I have with the guy my age, but I don't really want to play games. I don't want to end up getting hurt either. HELP!!!!!!!!
2006-06-10 11:23:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time they say has answers for most questions. Since there are no strings attached in any of your present relationships, don't tie yourself right now.
Ponder, if one of the guys were in a similar situation as you are, and you found out, how would you react? Maybe asking yourself that Q will answer a number of doubts?
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2006-06-11 04:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Starreply 6 · 13⤊ 2⤋
I think you're at that point where you really know what you want after all...and...you might be thinking that you found it in this new friend.
You're probably thinking it would be nice to have a partner that understands what it's like to raise kids, and work, and attempt some momentary private life.
(*grin* - I have twins too - I know what it's like).
So your real question is...how do I spend more time getting to know this guy your age...without letting the younger guy go on a bad note.
I bet you'll never hear this advice:
INTRODUCE THE TWO.
From my experience, every interesting, attractive lady I meet has a boyfriend. But those that want to spend time with me - away from boyfriend - always honor me with not only time with someone nice...but the comfort of bringing their children along.
And I'm always open to anything they wish to persue.
Most young guys with no attachments aren't so open...or they are so immature they bail out.
And go slow...you have time.
2006-06-10 18:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stop playing games. If you are dating both men,you are not exclusive. No one can guarantee that you won't be hurt. Life is risk.You can let the younger guy know what you want and see if he is interested in the same.The guy that is your age may not be emotionally free or on the rebound. He is still going through a breakup.Have you made a list of what you want in a mate? Do you either of them have qualities that you want passed on to your children? Peace.
2006-06-10 18:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all age doesn't always have anything to do with maturity... I would look more into why he is breaking up with someone.... (Do you really want to take on someone elses problems?) and next just remember that the grass normally looks greener onthe other side. If you are happy with the relationship that you have... then you shouldn't leave it... and if you want more from it then maybe you should try asking for it... Just because the guy is 23 doesn't mean that he doesn't want to settle down.
2006-06-10 18:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Big John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes what ever you do dont play games or everyone will end up hurt and you will end up lonely.
The decision can be simple - first decide what you want from a relationship right now - second make sure you know if you were free that this second guy with a little girl would even want to date you - he may not - he might just want you as a friend - sounds a bit calculating I know but whats the point of breaking up with your current if the other guy isnt even interested!
then ask your current boyfriend whether his goals fit in with yours - if not just tell him and move on
if they do well then its harder and you have to choose one or the other and get on with it
dont dawdle in this one - the stress will get to you
sort it and move on
2006-06-10 18:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up or partially break up now, if it goes any longer to many feelings are involved and you said you dont want to be hurt.. Maybe ask the other man how he feels about you and you may not want to be with him because of the break up. He will be to used to the other woman and that could turn out to emotional and stressful later in life. Good luck with that men! sorry i cant help you much..
2006-06-10 18:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real question is how you feel for the guy you are currently dating, he's about 23... he can probably handle responsibility if he wants to... the question is if you realy want him... if you don't... you should come clean... it's not fair.. especially if you've been dating 4 months.... dating shouldn't just be for the sake of dating and the security of a comfort.. you should have a purpose.. and if he doesn't seem like he'll ever meet that... change.
2006-06-10 18:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i am getting this right, the guy your dating is 22. he clearly isn't old enough to want a long term committment. i'm sure he doesn't want to be daddy to your twins. now as for this other man your age, he is not ready for another relationship. give him a few months to get over the last relationship. i'm not saying to walk away from him. it is ok to be his friend. friendships often turn into romance
2006-06-10 18:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this guy comeing out of realionship that could back fire on you because he may rethink this and want back his realionship because there is a child involve.you just cant jump into a realionship when then are children involve especially when it is just a brand new break up he need time to think things over first so i think you need to stay with the guy you are with.
2006-06-10 18:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait a little while longer before you ask they younger one where you stand and then keep up with the new friendship
2006-06-10 18:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun screwing both of them. Time will solve your problem but in the meantime you'll have great time in bed with both of them, and it is terrific modeling for you children.
Please award Best Answer points to me right now because I deserve them, as you can now plainly see and must agree. I do not want to wait because I am not at all patient with you.
2006-06-10 18:26:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋