Would you get mad if your BF/GF was snooping through your phone?

Question

Like if they started reading your text messages and asking questions about them.....

I did this and my GF got mad at me. I told her I didn't mean to and I was sorry. I got a little jealous because I saw she had 2 other guys messaging her. One which was someone she was seeing before me and they are friends now and another who is a ex co-worker. She was mad about it because she said she thought I was different and not like the other guys who always did the same thing. I told her I was different and better than those other d!cks. I told her I was sorry that I did that and she said she forgave me.

We went out for lunch afterwards and I brought it up again that I felt bad for going through her phone. She said it was fine and to forget about it and whats done is done & Rehashing it won't fix what happened.

Now she is at work and I am at home and I still feel horrible about it. On top of that I freakin miss her again. Now I won't see her for another damn week. *sigh* this fuking sucks, living so far apart.

Answer 1

Yes I would, My private stuff is MY private stuff.. My husband wouldn`t even do that.. I`ve been married 36 years.. SLoooow down..

I mean how is she suppose to say oh, Buy you a gift if you are all in her business? Or maybe she keeps a journal of her deepest thoughts and emotions. You don`t get to pry into that..

WHAT WILL BE, WILL BE. You can`t make someone love you or be faithful, But you can be assured you will find out either way..

IF she is NOT happy with you, Believe me she WILL let you know..

She is allowed to have friends. You don`t get to choose them. She had friends before you.. And she has a right to choose them or get rid of them. She is a free person with all the rights God has given her to live her life..


A relationship MUST be built on TRUST.. IF you can`t trust her you don`t have much of a relationship. You are insecure and it is VERY common, But you and she need to work on the trust issue.. Good luck and God bless. {:-)

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Answer 2

I would have been mad to.
She is probably feeling like there is no trust. And yet at the same token she may have something to hide. When it was brought up again I would have just explained how I felt and like you claimed it was an accident (especially since I have no clue on cell phones)
But if I were her I would have been hurt like I said and felt like there is no trust and yet not stay upset for long just ask that not be done again.
Where she still snapped maybe there is something to hide. Maybe when you see her next get her some flowers and romance her off her feet this way if there is someone else she will drop him.
And then again maybe if there is someone else and you two are still together she is having her cake and eating it too!
This happened to my friend and it drove her man nuts cuz she never expressed how she felt for him to him but she did to her friends.

Answer 3

i think everyone just gets mad when anyone goes through their stuff. I mean it just is kind of a very personal thing. I guess that what you say or text to someone else is between u and that person, unless you decide otherwise. I think she just was a little upset that u would go looking through her stuff. She was probably just really surprised you would go snooping around her stuff, and now she probably no longer cares. It is not a big deal if she said its ok. I know you will not immediatly feel better, but you learn from your mistakes. Just ask her next time, you'll be fine.

Try not to think about it. She's right, whats done is done and theres nothing else to it. Dont feel bad, no ones perfect.

Answer 4

I have nothing to hide in my phone.I would be a little angry only for the fact that it indicates a lack of trust. I would have been happy to let you see my phone's content if you had have asked and not done it sneakily behind my back. You have to trust her as that is the basis of a relationship. I believe you are truly sorry and she will get over that if you don't keep bringing it up and reminding her that your trust in her was challenged. As hard as it is to understand, some people can remain friends and continue platonic relationships when they end a relationship.You can't erase someones past but you need to have faith in your future. Give it some time and give her no more reasons to distrust you or to think you distrust her. Good Luck.

Answer 5

You sound like an Insecure man...why do u feel the need to go thru her text messages for anyway? I personally wouldn't do that..I had a bf once that had other women text him or even call him..I told him I didn't really like that..and it stopped...but for me to pick up his cel and go snooping around..NO I wouldn't put myself thru the heartache of reading that crap...If you cant trust your gf then what else is there? You should just relax and find something to do with ur free time...do something constructive that will keep ur mind off this girl...You know...when you show too much interest in a person..you could be "suffocating" them..if you back off a little and have ur own interests this girl will want to be around u more...Think about it

Answer 6

First off, never bring it up again, unless something new happens ith a similar situation. You'll make things worse if you do. I don't know your history together, but it seems she genuinely wants to forget about it...so don't sulk about it when your around her.

Second, how serious do you think she wants to be w/ you? Do you know?

Fast forward 5 years, and let's say your're married to her. You would have the right to go through her phone and without thinking twice. But since your not, it's not okay if you go through her phone because you don't have the right to.

If someone is comfortable and has nothing to hide, then who really cares if you were looking through her phone (unless you purposely were looking for something to just complain about or make things complicated in the relationship.)

Answer 7

I will tell you this straight up. That girl only got mad at you because she had something to hide from you. If someone is being honest and has done nothing wrong, there would be no reason to get pissy about that. DON'T FEEL BAD!!! She just thought that she was about to get busted. She is trying to make you feel bad. This is called "Turning the Tables". Hope she isn't being scandolous. Don't let her play mind games with you man. Life is way too short for that and the world consist of way to many beautiful women.

Answer 8

I would be upset because of the fact he was looking and why in the first place with out anything to hide. I would feel that he doesn't trust me and what is he looking for.Some people don't have any privacy growing up so that would be a touchy thing with them.Once someone looses trust it's very hard to get it back.There will always be that little voice in their head,a question,and then neither one trusts the other and there goes the whole relationship.I do hope that both of you can come clean with each other.

Answer 9

I have to tell you that i find personal messages in my phone to be...my personal "stuff".

If I had a girlfriend go through and ask questions about whatever was in there...I'd be annoyed because it's really none of her business.

But the one thing that strikes me about your girlfriend's response is "your like the other guys".

Most relationships run a pattern that's difficult for us to break.
Which for me, in your story, the red flag was that she stays connected to an ex that used to go through her phone and make her mad...

I have to echo what's already been said "She's angry because she's not trustworthy and yet again, she's been found out."

My advice is don't bring it up again.
Treat her cell phone like a golden chalice.
And never forget you discovered information she has kept from you.

I was once told that "omissions are betrayals" no matter how small.

Hang in there...it feels like a bumpy ride ahead.

Answer 10

when anyone goes through their stuff. I mean it just is kind of a very personal thing. I guess that what you say or text to someone else is between u and that person, unless you decide otherwise. I think she just was a little upset that u would go looking through her stuff. She was probably just really surprised you would go snooping around her stuff, and now she probably no longer cares. It is not a big deal if she said its ok. I know you will not imm