Hey i need some advice:
broke up with the ex about a month ago, but that was over a long time ago, we were actually more friends than anything else, but now theres this other guy, who ive been having feelings for for almost a year now, and i just thought it was a stupid crush and at the time had a boyfriend (who broke up with about a month ago), and now i see/speak to him everyday and i think i might really like him, but he's really clueless when it comes to girls, i dont think hes ever had a girlfriend,and last year a mutual friend had told me that this guy had a crush on me but didn't want to do anything due to Mr Ex, but ive been flirting and hinting,and still nothing,Im usually a very flirtatious person to everyone, so how do I make him understand that he's not just another person, that im actually interested??? Please help
2006-06-10 10:15:33 · 14 answers · asked by Mezee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start by realizing that by flirting with everyone, that you are sending mixed mesages to the guy, and he doesn't feel special in any way. You need to think about what a real relationship is and what the outcome can be. Set your goals, and climb the mountain so to speak. Us guys, are actually insecure about girls that flirt alot, because it makes us wonder if you are being true to us or just another guy tht has no meaning.
2006-06-10 10:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
invite him for a drink (soda,coffee, booze) whatever floats your boat. Let things flow. Before you part ways just come right out and say ---- look I know I was with someone before and well I hate to rely on the grapevine but I heard that you may have a crush on me and if that is true then maybe we could hook up sometime and just do whatever hang or something. -- my bf is clueless too so i get used to having to have to spell things out this is what you are gonna have to do. Just be honest with him and he will appreciate that more than you know. Sometimes guys aren't as clueless as they claim he could be just seeing if you are really flirting or just being yourself. Sometimes they think we are the clueless ones!!!!
2006-06-10 10:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by dragonflyaway69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just go the obvious route and just tell him, it doesn't take that much. Just tell him how you feel.
If he is that naive and shy, it will be up to you to make all the moves.
It shoudn't be difficult, as you have been told already that he likes you, but is to shy to move on.
So just take the bull by the horns, so to speak, and ask him out on a date. Make it something simple like the Movies, and maybe a snack afterwords.
2006-06-10 10:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-08 23:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also dated a girl after 4 years of asking her out, 6 months later i discovered that she actually had a boyfriend who didn't treat her right so she turned to me. being honest, it feels really bad to be a second choice, it really sucks and it is painful. i suggest that you be honest to him and tell him why you want him now, that way he have a choice. it would really be painful if he find out later that you love him because u broke up with your boyfriend.
2006-06-10 10:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by flyleg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, try talkin to him. if he's worth it then he'll listen. you sound like you really do like him, so tell him that! don't be afraid! take the chance you have because you don't want any regrets! just be brave and talk to him and just let him know that you're there. i hope i helped you! good luck and have a nice day! : )
2006-06-10 10:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by lil_bit_a_evrythang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't come on too strong cause that may scare him away. He just sounds like a shy kind of person. Just ask him if he likes you too and that you like him and see what happens.
2006-06-10 10:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him how you feel ~ i my self am having trouble because ive liked someone 4 a year but he's going to high school! well any way you should tell him! best advice i can give!
2006-06-10 10:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him alone and tell him you want to have a serious relationship. Give him a sensous kiss and take it from there.
2006-06-10 10:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Communication is the key to everything. Friendships and love. ... Just ask him out, or just tell him how you feel, and see what he says!
2006-06-10 10:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by n0love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋