I most recently found my 15 year crying in his room, saying that he hadnt accomplished anything this year. This is a child who has been an a- student on the track team, soccer team and key club so bascially and over achiever. Yet he said he is a social outcast, which also makes nosense because he has lots of friends. I'm not sure how to handle this. Any advice he is a freshmen is this typical?
2006-06-10 10:10:05 · 4 answers · asked by rottenkid4560 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter went through the same thing, and she is a social butterfly. I think at that age their bodies are changing faster than they can keep up with. Also, we and our kids fall into the trap of defining ourselves by what we do and how well we do it. Help your son remember that you love him no matter what, that he is a great kid and he'll come through this. Sometimes we forget that our more confident kids have times of self doubt and insecurity.
2006-06-10 10:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by keri gee 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Teen years, very confusing. I remember my teen years. I was good in school, athletic, handsome, had friends, girl friends, etc, but hormones at that age are taking hold and do strange things. I felt lonely, I felt incompetent, and even had thoughts of suicide at times. I would try to keep to myself, which would compound the feelings of loneliness and friendlessness. If I could say anything, I would say give them love, give them support. Keep them active, keep them busy, go do things together. When I was bored I found I had more trouble. I got a job my freshman year and worked every summer after that, and I think that helped me build confidence. I worked alone so that may not have helped my loneliness, but I think I was working hard enough that I didn't have time to think about it. Find things that help build confidence, acknowledge those accomplishments, remind him about those accomplishments, let them know how proud you are. I wish you luck.
2006-06-10 17:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by poolboy0103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Yes its pretty normal but he might have a certain type of depression.. it could be serious but just talk to him, dont force anything and try not to scream at him about ANYTHING till he cheers up a little. sometime you should take him to the mall and let him buy some clothes or objects HE wants even if you dont approve of it unless its knives or porn.... then you will need to say no. Keep in better touch with him, come to school orentations or award assemblys and let him know your there for him. Im about that age and i know how much life sucks but i think it helps when my mom comes in for me. i have one friend that i truely know but im a friend to a lot of people even though it may look like i have a ton from the outside i dont. You should let him be who he wants but give him support and a little limits or he'll think you dont care, if your overprotective he'll just hate you. I hope that helps, if it doesnt you might want to take him to his doctor and have a depression test done, or look it up online and see how he matches up... its okay to have depression and let him know that you think that, some types you just cant help its a chemical disorder not something that has happend. see what girl he likes or his sexual orentation if that might be his issue. Even if you think being bi or gay is wrong, hes your son. you should not hate someone you once loved. Support is the key. stick with it but good luck, you can instant message me or email me if you need more help or talk to you doctor. Itll work out for the better sooner or later.. good luck again
2006-06-10 17:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him what he did and ask what he wanted to achieve that he didnt. and this is typical of a freshman
2006-06-10 17:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by CHARLES A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋