Why do men have so many insecurties once they move in with you? Why not before they moved in ?

Answer 1

because men have really big ego's and when we put it on the line with a move like that , we are saying essentially that you are our choice our woman so to speak and we trust you to keep our ego strong. when women go and cheat on their men, they damage that ego by being a woman of no virtue, it's embarrasing to tell your buddies that your g/f is a sl'ut. that you made a bad choice, so the nurturing thing is just a way to get you to feel sorry for him and not do anything to hurt him or his ego, like one of your children, if you are raising them , you won't do anything to hurt them. do you follow? that's why some guys that get dumped can't get over it and turn into stalkers, they don't love you , you have just bruised their ego and they can't take it, they will have you at whatever cost just to medicate their ego.

Answer 2

Suddenly we have towels in the bathroom we cant use and carpet on the toilet. 12 pillows on the bed. Chick flicks and sit-coms on the tube. foo foo drinks stocked in the bar candles everywhere and a medicine cabinet full of well you know. Shall I go on? Well anyway we look around and go how did this happen? Maybe melancholy looks insecure to some?

Answer 3

Because, when a girl lets us move in with them, we know that her character is somewhat weaker than a girl who has high morals. When a girl has lower morals, she gets bored with the relationship easier, and will start looking, and the insecurities are going to pop up when we have to worry about where you are, who you are with and all of that other stuff. If you would stop letting guys move in with you, and date them for longer periods of time, and only allow them to move in after they marry you, you will find that you are attracking a better class of man who is more self confident, and also more aware of you and who you really are.

Answer 4

Because so much can change when two people move in together... Plus if he is moving in with you then if you kick him out he will have no where to stay... If you as a woman moved in with him normally you can pick up a guy at will or have girlfriends that you can stay with... its not normal that a guy would have friends like that..

Answer 5

I am not sure.. is there any way you could elaborate a bit. What is his problem? I guess I am lucky my man was more insecure until we moved in together and then he felt so much more secure because he had me and we were together as partners in life.. nothing could go wrong... he was (and still is) on top of the world.

Answer 6

Because they want the relationship to work and they are scared to death it won't. They have committed to you enough to move in. They may fear that you will tire of them and they will lose a home and a loved one. We would fee the same way if we moved in with them. Wouldn't we?

Answer 7

Because men have a one thought process and it is easier for them to always make us feel like we have done something wrong than to admit they are insecure. they are men admitting a weakness is just unheard of.....

Answer 8

They are hidding their bad stuff that would put you off until they are moved in thinking that they have you trapped and now you have to be their mommy.

Answer 9

they had them before you just was looking at mr perfect

im a firm believer you dont know someone till laundry day
think about it

Answer 10

good question. maybe because its more real to them once they move in, and they closer they get emotionally, the scareder they get.